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[sexilicious]

i've done it with others mike just ask them lol

[mikekhaze]

one thing bout me is i dont ask others but i experience it myself better... so u jus be ready babe...

[sexilicious]

you have to catch me first

[Janine Dee]

Welcome Yellow, my take on this has been that there is very little ultimate right or ultimate wrongs. Many have their personal styles of play, and I know that it can vary for me according to who I am with.

I'm thinking the underlying problem is more in the partner being played with, but then again you are primarily talking guys here and that's not exactly my field of expertise. 

I do feel the need to ask though, do you communicate what you are expecting to them in advance? I've found most users here eventually develop what we've playfully called a "screening process" where we talk a bit with the prospective partner and see if they are going to be comfortable playing in the style we want to play.

[Azrielle]

Welcome to the Forum, YellowWind! Mwah!

I have to agree with you completely... the who, what, where, when crap will usually earn a room partner a quick response with "EXIT ROOM" and a quick addition to my iggy list. What I am personally doing on my end is no one's business but my own unless I wish to share it.

Nothing, but nothing sends out warning signs and alarm bells faster than someone who wants to know what I am doing on my end. It's almost as if they think their game partner should be as excited as they are, when in fact, it's a distraction from the game.

Incidentally, every person who has ever sent me a message to join them on skype, or to CAM with them gets a quick recording of the IP addy using my handy dandy tacing tool and an equally quick message to Law Enforcement, as this tells me almost immediately that the person on the other end from me is an INTERNET PREDATOR. The other warning signs are of course a general lack of respect towards me. I don't put up with this from my Hubby, Friends & Family, let alone tolerating it for even a second from a complete stranger.

If you want PORN, go elsewhere... AChat is not the place for finding it.

Thanks for letting me vent.
Az.

[james_dean]

Imho, the human brain is the biggest/best sex organ.  In a game like this, without it, Achat wouldn't be as much fun.   98.9% of the time I am fully clothed when sitting in front of the game.  People who know me close enough know why. lol   Although it is a turn on when a woman tells you she is "hot and bothered" irl, I try not to ask.

[SonyaVixen]

there is no right or wrong. there is no ask or don't ask something. some people match together and others don't. if you do not like something then tell it to your partner. if you get ignored search a partner that match you better.

[hentaiboy69]

Absolutely agree with you, Sonya! If you find a good partner and the sparkle burns, strange things can happened thanks to achat......and pals, i have the proof of it!   

[CondomGirl]

Well, this is an intriguing discussion.

For my part; I can honestly tell you that I do not touch my cagina or play in any way with myself during playing AChat.

I know lot of guys that I talk or play with do. I do not mind if they stroke themselves as long as I would not really recognize it. That means if a guy is able to talk and keep on a conversation and not loosing himself in silence while he is stroking all the time expecting a sexual heated up monologue of me to please his masturbating fantasies - then I am totally fine with it.

But in the slightest would i like to hear things like "I am touching myself right now, are you?" or anything similar. I just do not want to know what my partner(s) is/are doing in their real life while playing the game with me.

In the opposite I do not tell them what I do in the real life at the same time. And if I really get excited by the play and emotionally touched then I like to keep that experience in mind and think about it a later time when I am all alone with myself at home in the bed or under the shower, where I do not have to talk :-)

But I am totally honest about it and let guys in the game know about that fact. Most of them just were respectful and accepted this perfectly.

Daniela