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Because we had the what turns you on as far as chat I thought it would be a good idea to have the opposite view. So what turns you off as far as chatting. Feel free to include:
Icebreakers (lines or words people use to start the the conversation)
General Chatting Manner
Language Used
Fetish's That Repulse (Though most of them should be self evident)
Weirdest Request
Unreasonable Requests (things you wont do)
Anything you think is prudent
Now the needed example from my pov.
Icebreakers - the biggest turn off in a icebreaker for me is not being able to clearly state something in a sentence. Second biggest is the person telling me they are horny/full of cum/wet. My response for the first one is ... simply yep I am not going to even bother with that person. Second is ...well how nice for you whats your point. (telling me that you horny/full of cum/wet should never be during an icebreaker phase come on I understand that you can be but I may not be so stating it is just silly)
General Chatting Manner - this covers more or less the way they present themselves in the conversation. If mutual interest builds let it build normally if its not building and your forcing it. Its simply rude and less interesting by the second. Generally in conversation I am very easy-going but there are things that i have problems with. An example was someone whom was a little tipsy talking on behalf of his girlfriend and himself and looking for an online girlfriend on top to act out fantasies. The person was completely unclear and when called on it just became rude. Eventually if your doing that its either ignore or just leave you to your devices.
Language Used - As a primary English speaker ... I can understand not all the people on Achat share that linguistic background but a clear attempt is preferable. That being said I have found those that speak in broken English tend to speak it better then the god awful people that speak in ebonics. (Which is pretty much slang heavy and without context completely unclear and not worth even acknowledging. Also swearing, being insulting calling names is quick way to loose interest ... in context is fine but at least check first.
Fetish's that repulse - The requests that I have had are a little weird when it comes to RP ... these include the ageplay, incest forced domination .. etc. These are just a complete turn off (obviously there is more to the list but lets put it this way I prefer not to state them).
Weirdest Request - I have ever gotten from a person on achat was to hop on the cams with him and tell him how to abuse his genitals and ass. That was just weird completely just ... good god no. Main reason why is because there is no fun there for me I dont like seeing people hurt its just ... a no no for me.
Unreasonable Requests - for me thats self evident. As I like to keep my achat and real life seperate most unreasonable request is to meet or to exchange personal details of any kind. (we know the reason why from the other post and other topics on here so I dont want to restate it)
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Nice topic
From my perspective, the number one gripe I have is: We've started chatting... We're both being pleasant and the chatting is going well. I send a message and I am informed that the person I was chatting with has gone into a room! No warning, no "I'm going to go into a room with someone"... nothing. The decent thing (IMO) is to at least "end" the chat.
Number two is: Again, we're chatting along... being pleasant... some good jokes and messages being sent... then suddenly... no more responses and I'm chatting with myself. Oh, she's still there but a friend or lover has showed up or for whatever reason the chat stops. Again, say something and "end" the chat.
Number three is as a guy... you only get one chance. I'll admit, I have a goofy sense of humor that people sometimes don't get... we'll be chatting along and I'll send (what I think) is an innocent message only to be told that I have a "smart" sense of humor that the she doesn't like. End of chat and zapped into the ignore bin... no chance to explain... no chance to apologize.
I wondered how many people actually clean out their Ignore Lists... I took a survey only 11% ever do.
Back on topic:
The turn off's for me is a demand for a gift (you ladies probably don't get that one). Incest requests (I don't want to be anyone's daddy or uncle). I'm with you on the Repulsive Fetishes.
P.S. I never get treated like that by Robot Girl.
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I agree with you Covems. I've even been in rooms when the lady just bolts. No explanation or anything. Was it something I said or did? And I don't gift for rooms either. Yes, I pay the monthly premium, but outside of that, I don't pay for sex irl, why should I here? One other thing is - more like a pet peeve - not reading bios/profiles. I put that info on there for a reason. Just my .02 (in US dollars) ;)
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In response to the point raised by Covems regarding "Girls" disappearing without saying why or where............
I have had my bottom spanked a couple of times for doing this, but I didn't do it maliciously or even unthinkingly............
I am often talking to at least 5 people at once and if I am invited, then by the time I have apologised to everyone and told them I have a date, the invite has long expired and the inviter then takes the huff because they feel I don't want to room them after all.
I do try, but it is often quite impossible!
Most times, if I am waiting for a specific room invite, then I try and tell the friends I'm chatting with that I have an expected date.
I have considered this many times and I would like to ask The DEV TEAM to give us some sort of button which flags up a "Sorry folks, I've been invitied to a room, catch you all later" message.
Of course if anyone has a better idea, I would be very glad to hear it!
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In response to the point raised by Covems regarding "Girls" disappearing without saying why or where............
I am often talking to at least 5 people at once and if I am invited, then by the time I have apologised to everyone and told them I have a date, the invite has long expired and the inviter then takes the huff because they feel I don't want to room them after all.
Of course if anyone has a better idea, I would be very glad to hear it!
How about this? Try telling the "inviter" that you would like to end the other 4 chats first. Politely end the chats and then go into the room. That's not an unreasonable request is it?
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Chat is very important to me. Words are the base for how I play the game and what i use when chatting to friends. So what turns me off are:
- an overuse of abbreviations. Take the time to write full words, I'm not into text/sms language. I've come to value the english language greatly :)
- convo's that end after 3 sentences: her: hi me: hello {name} her: how r u me: I'm fine, thanks. how are you? her: good 2.... Am I expected to take over initiative immediatly after they chose to talk to me? That doesn't trigger my interest and actually annoys me
- the lack of abilty for accepting I am nót going to room. That seems very hard to understand for some. A huge turn off to be begged, threatened or cursed at when telling someone you have other plans
- The perversities as mentioned above.
- at the top of the list: girls that ask for gifts, for whatever reason
weirdest request: I was told to go fuck my daughter when i told the one I was chatting to, that she had woken up. Still gives me the creeps..
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In response to the point raised by Covems regarding "Girls" disappearing without saying why or where............
I am often talking to at least 5 people at once and if I am invited, then by the time I have apologised to everyone and told them I have a date, the invite has long expired and the inviter then takes the huff because they feel I don't want to room them after all.
Of course if anyone has a better idea, I would be very glad to hear it!
How about this? Try telling the "inviter" that you would like to end the other 4 chats first. Politely end the chats and then go into the room. That's not an unreasonable request is it?
Hee hee
I wish it was that easy.. some people won't stop talking......, then they want to know who your rooming with.... and why aren't they invited...
like I said, by the time youve told everyone, the inviter has gone cold.....
You don't understand it because you've never been a girl.........
I don't like being "rude" to anyone. you know me, you know that.
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1) Being called Mom or Mommy ... wtf is that all about??? on first contact. Really hate people who presume I like incest.
2) Being referred to as milf .... its so not a compliment, not where I come from anyway.
3) Rooming in mid conversation - its just plain rude and disrespectful
4) Saying sorry, you are busy and then getting pounded with cold invites from the person you have told
5) Using gutter language on first contact ... come on please ... should be kept to the room
6) Having a barrage of filthy talk, after you have told them you are already chatting with friends and are busy.
7) young
8) Weirdest request - A guy told me to go die cus I refused to room him and when I adminished him with BB scriptures - he told me he was reporting me to Achat, then left messages for me and my family to die ... big mistake trying to bully a red head lol Lets say I didnt report him to Achat but he didnt bother me again :) Every time I saw him on line , my goal was to get him to ignore me. And I got a few friends in on the act too LMAO Bet he knows the scriptures off by heart.
9) When telling people of interesting Forum topics to check out and vote for their favourites, presuming or trying to negotiate sexual favours in return for their time and effort... well.. words fail me on that one.. almost, but not quite .. lmao
10) England losing at footy ... Grrr LOL
Wow, I was on a role lol .... that will do for now :)
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Blu... an invite sent without on assumption is rude in my book. Everyone should ask... not just presume. Telling the invitor.. "just a sec" is justified.... and if that pisses them off... well if you want to continue play with one like that , that's your decision... anyone... ANYONE... knows they are not the only one probably talking to a lady... courtesy is understanding she has friends... with whom she may wish to excuse herself.
as to those pushing the conversation... really you owe them only the goodbye.... the rest none of their business.... goes back to the issue of understanding and courtesy.
*puffs*... sorry.. I think that its a sore spot with me too, like most guys. I cannot accept that...I know when conversation has withered... well it's a pretty good sign of your importance and value to the other in that moment. I hate to admit it... but have been guilty of this myself....and understand how it made a dear friend feel... am still apologizing to her over that...
Taking that brief moment to state "gtg"..." gtf... " or "dates here bye" with a "ttyl" is more than enough and takes little effort...puts them on notice...
I like to chat.. the presumption that I am going to just jump into bed immediately is a turn off... though... Mr. Bear sometimes go for it with a newbie... being angry that I decline...a bigger issue. I am a hard one to seduce... and like to know the expectations ahead of time... before rooming. If they wish to room to chat, that is a point I am willing to consider... if nothing else is going on.
Unlike the others... I much rather have the "Hello"... or any other awkward approach... Woman are sometimes nervous about approaching a man...I have met some marvelous ladies from their simple lines of "hello"... "how are you" than the clever one liners. To me it's what they say afters that matters when I do respond. I may never play with them... but I have some true "friends" as such with whom I seldom or never play with. In a couple of circumstances a hello has led to deep rich friendships.
Respect come to mind though... cause there are fetishes I won't do... pushing that on me guarantees I won't play again. Hounding me over it does one no good.
Respect of my privacy... I will share some things... being pushed beyond those limits...sets the flares off
Presumptions... just because I can do VR Dom and it seems of late many express that skewed viewpoint of reputation about me... does not mean I want to Dom every time I enter a room. I play all over the spectrum... but find many woman do not express their expectations of me before entering a room.
Abusive language... quickest exit and ignore you'll ever see....I hate it... that includes racial references. I use neither... and expect the same not to be directed towards me or any partner in any derogatory fashion. Humiliation is not my bag... expecting me to utilize it in BDSM play... nah... I am quite capable of performing without that cheap disgusting trick...and that runs back into that category of fetishes I won't do.
yeah that gifting line...it's already been said.
Covems... you get more than one chance...sometimes you have to keep rolling for it... until it finally is delivered again.
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The turn off's for me is a demand for a gift (you ladies probably don't get that one). Incest requests (I don't want to be anyone's daddy or uncle). I'm with you on the Repulsive Fetishes.
No Covems we get the assumption from guys that if they gift us that we some how owe them something. I have never ever asked for a gift in my entire time in AChat infact I find the suggestion that I will room for a gift insulting. If other girls accept that then thats on them to deal with but it detracts from the fun of AChat and its just an implication I do not even like and respond very negatively to.
I've even been in rooms when the lady just bolts.
Me bolting from a room usually is because the other partner has done something I dont like or its connection issues. Either way I at least say why. If its the former its usually because you have ignored something .. for example .. we are in a pose I say I dont like what your doing and you keep going ... I have already said it a few times by the time I leave. So that should be obvious.
Connection Issues well everyone understands there.
I have considered this many times and I would like to ask The DEV TEAM to give us some sort of button which flags up a "Sorry folks, I've been invitied to a room, catch you all later" message.
Yes either that or you have a button that extends the time on the invite or a button that sends a message back to its sender "Give me a second I'll tell you when to send an invite."
Only problem with that is the fact that in my experience some people can be very inpatient.
weirdest request: I was told to go fuck my daughter when i told the one I was chatting to, that she had woken up. Still gives me the creeps..
That is one of the most sickening suggestions I have ever seen Tight.
Wow, I was on a role lol .... that will do for now :)
you were on a roll Brandybee. I have to agree with most of your post ... I laughed alot at your weirdest request thats a way to have some fun with it I should have thought of it. England losing at footy ?...lol (I must disagree)
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@Bear.
That is unworthy Bear, really! I thought you knew me better than that. I do not jump into bed (or room) at a second's notice or with anyone who happens along.
I wasn't saying it was right or polite to leave mid-conversation to join someone in a room, I was saying that it is wrong, but sometimes it happens. I may even have thought that the offended person had gone away themselves if they hadn't said anything for about 6 inches!
The next time such a situation arises, I'll take a screen-shot of my dialogue box to show you just what I mean!
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My apologies Blu'... I certainly don't see you that way and certainly do not want others to believe that of you. It might be how I read your reply in the context of what the others are saying....most men and woman... would agree... disappearing in ACTIVE chat... not a conversation long delayed... is the a turn off. Long silence shouldn't be the issue...
I stand by my comments.. . a quick notice is all needed...asking a sec to say goodbye.. and giving those you talk with a heads up is common courtesy... That they hound you... well I see that wrong...once noticed I see no need to explain onesellf. Likewise once agreeing to room... that doesn't mean take 5 minutes to say goodbye...that in turn is unfair to the waiting partner.
Guess I am a hard nose in that regard... and see a grilling after being told rooming is immenent as a bit intrusive... none of their buisness with whom I am spending time with. Yet I understand that with one popular like you... the guys are jockeying for some edge of attention.
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Talking about multy chat remind me to a couple i know here (they are married in RL, but i have the feeling they are the same person!) who get upset if they find out i'm talking whit others users while talking whit them.....ridicolous! i don't think there is something wrong whit it and, of course, it can happend to room whit one of the users i'm chatting, but usually i ask to wait a moment to say bye to the others.
why there are so many crazy peoples around me!? uuuffffff.........so unlucky! :'(
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I agree with almost everything that has been pointed out here.
I don't get upset if someone suddenly leaves a room or goes busy while chatting, I just don't find it worth to get myself worked up about.
I really dislike the utterly and completely rude remarks from ignorant people that just see me as a thing rather than a person because of who I am or the people that are so enamored with the sexuality of MTF transsexuals that they can only see their own interest and scenarios.
I of course have to answer a lot of questions about my transsexuality and such... I don't mind that but to be honest it's a bit of a turn off to get down to that all the time.
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you know, Adera.....curiosity is the real engine of human kind! probably, if we don't have it, we were living in a cave and the best approach will be a wood mace hit on the head....sound interessing!? ::)
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Umm... what exactly are you implying with that? Am I getting misunderstood again? I thought I put things quite plainly. :-\
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Wow, what a great conversation this is. Thank you Kittenlepurr for starting it, by-the-way, I like your screen name, it's cute and clever. I can understand how you must feel when people assume that you should be obligated when they have gifted you. In my own personal experience, I've only sent gifts to people that I care about, and I expect nothing in return. From reading your posts, I'm willing to bet that if you do have connection problems, you explain that to the person at the first opportunity.
Bear... when I get zapped into the ignore bin all chances cease... I mean.. I got zapped for this:
Me: "... do you believe in the here after?"
Her: "Yes"
Me: "Then you know what I'm here after."
I put in a smiley face and got the Ignore Bin notice. WTF?!?
Adera... some people don't seem to realize that there are real people behind the words being typed. I don't want to offend anyone and I try to use the "golden rule" here as well as in real life.
I understand that AChat is a game and there are winners (inviter) and losers (rest of the chatters) and I'm fine with that. Just a "GTG" would be nice.
I too have had some bizarre responses/requests. Some that have involved my daughter (she's a 10 year old going on 45 :) ) and one that involved digging up my late wife. I ended those conversations quickly. The wife one still reverberates.
Hey... I just realized that I think these are my first "serious" postings... maybe I'm growing up after all.
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Adera... some people don't seem to realize that there are real people behind the words being typed. I don't want to offend anyone and I try to use the "golden rule" here as well as in real life.
I don't know how frequent this is for females or males but I seen to be approached by these people A LOT, maybe people have a harder time in general to grasp transsexuals... wouldn't be surprising.
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Umm... what exactly are you implying with that? Am I getting misunderstood again? I thought I put things quite plainly. :-\
nothing wrong, my friend......
I of course have to answer a lot of questions about my transsexuality and such... I don't mind that but to be honest it's a bit of a turn off to get down to that all the time.
i was talking about the question some peoples had make to you about your style of life. some can be interessed in knowing it to know you better or just because they are curious about you. sorry if i had give you a wrong impression whit my preview post here, not in my mind!
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Yes, many are interested and I don't mind that, but it does cool me off.
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I think Adera... and this is my opinion... the Shemales are the class with the largest group of "fakes"... trying to say it without insulting those immersed into the fantasy... but just just saying ... they are not true shemales... rather exploring the fantasy..
Sweetie there is such a wide divergent of attitudes and roles between the players it muddles the picture. Understanding you is important... that might prompt annoying questions, I am not certain how else to approach it. Not all read the forum... where I learned truly how to perceive you and embrace the woman in your soul.
@Covems... very odd... rather bland... I can say the only ignore that I know I am subject to was also from using a flippant line, one mildly flirtaous. Guess many don't like that approach...Use at your own risk IMO.
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Yes, many are interested and I don't mind that, but it does cool me off.
that was clear in your preview post.....and sorry again if i had upset you a little!
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What's turning me off?
As said before, I don't like to talk to someone that suddenly is busy. Then, as Tight mentioned, sms chat.
Most I don't like requests for being a daddy.
If a girl asks me "Do you wanna fuck me for xxxA$?" I make myself a joke of it answering I don't take money for fun... the (almost) short talk after is something I enjoy ;D
I forget all unpolite or rude messages... people are different and I don't break my head about idiots.
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My ... I don't think about what make me off ...
It is different , for my mood , for my previous experiences and feelings ...
A Thing that really turn me OFF is asking requests about ... Realworld Stuff ( Pics , Cams , Mails ... )
They kills my fun a lot , but still, for some who are imaginative and fun ... it is not a reason to "IGNORE" them .
Else .. well I don't have rules : a word, maybe a comma may change the magic to a duty ...
I can't express what is the red line between fun and duty .
I can't express what is the red line between fully enjoyment and borness ...
That's the magic of life !
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What turn me off in chatting ? hmmm principally some weird words i think . some exemples really strange cause the effect is not the same in english and in french ;D :
some lines like this :
- leche moi la chatte ( lick my pussy ) : in french totally off but really nice in english
- pete moi le cul ( broke my ass (maybe)) : off in both language
- bouffe moi les nichons ( eat my breasts ) : off in french , on in english
etc , etc ....
but to be honest , i gave you the very bad words in french , i suppose there is some in english too like breasts/boobs/tits . i dont know witch one is better than the other :)
hmmm i'll stop here cause i dont like write some words like this lol
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Wow, what a great conversation this is. Thank you Kittenlepurr for starting it, by-the-way, I like your screen name, it's cute and clever. I can understand how you must feel when people assume that you should be obligated when they have gifted you. In my own personal experience, I've only sent gifts to people that I care about, and I expect nothing in return. From reading your posts, I'm willing to bet that if you do have connection problems, you explain that to the person at the first opportunity.
Thank you. Its pretty easy to understand how i feel but simply put its a little insulting on the whole. "I am entitled because I sent you a gift" that people get. Its gracious of you to believe that but I find no reason to lie about a bad connection it happens and if you knew me like some of the others on here do I am very much not a withhold my opinions kind of person. Even if you dont want to hear it you ask for honesty you get it. Its just the way I am.
I don't get upset if someone suddenly leaves a room or goes busy while chatting, I just don't find it worth to get myself worked up about.
I really dislike the utterly and completely rude remarks from ignorant people that just see me as a thing rather than a person because of who I am or the people that are so enamored with the sexuality of MTF transsexuals that they can only see their own interest and scenarios.
I of course have to answer a lot of questions about my transsexuality and such... I don't mind that but to be honest it's a bit of a turn off to get down to that all the time.
Its less me getting upset more the whole you could have consideration for the other person to at least tell them whats happening on your end.
Rude remarks are never worth giving the time to bother with them or respond. From my perspective if someone has to be rude then they have just proved they are not worth talking to at all. Adera people that see you are a thing are merely the unenlightened fools that have no value and deserve not to be valued. People that aren't after mutual fun are in the equal location to those fools and are not worth the time and can be with themselves all alone. (callous i know .... but achat is about having fun together not one sided)
I think the main problem is people that are curious never take into account that questions that are common are asked all the time to that person. But I also believe in trying to think and understand. Besides you are a friend Adera. Thats all that matters :). -hugs-
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It might sound wierd, saying this here, but what turns me off, is the hardcore dirty talk... my partner wanting me to call her a bitch, whore, slut, and things of that nature.
The other thing that turns me off, is... NOT talking. I hate pose hoppers.
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lol a agree with both of your turn off things trek :) and if someone call me bitch , whore , or slut , i leave the room ;D
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OMG where should I start?
Random Person: Hi
Me: Hi there
Random Person: Nice outfit wanna fuck? (sends invite)
To be in the middle of a conversation and then have the person I’m talking to suddenly go busy because they went to a room with someone. I don’t have a problem with them getting a room. We’re all here to have fun, but I find it kind of rude to just run off like that without even saying “Be back later, Gotta go, ttyl, I’m getting laid, fuck you” anything would be better than not saying anything IMO.
I know it’s a big world and there are lots of people in it. And a lot of them don’t speak English very well, but I only speak English, and I have it on my profile that I prefer English speakers. If you can’t speak English without using the google translator, please don’t try to chat with me. Its really frustrating to try and understand you.
If I don’t answer you, I’m not ignoring you and I don’t dislike you. Its more than likely one of two things. I either had to take a phone call or use the bathroom, or I just have too many conversations going on and I can’t process anymore at the moment. Please don’t send me messages asking what’s wrong with me.
These are at the top of my list.
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a couple of points were mentioned earlier and I totally agree with:
- being usually expected as a guy (or at least thats the way I take it) to keep taking the initiative and bring up smtg to talk about. It aint always possible and can be frustrating if one doesnt get proper feedback
- Sudden death of the chat for any reason. If the one on the other side of the line cant just notify that she/he's gonna room or got a phone or whatever, as small note later can help. I have received such small msg aopoligizing for just leaving and I really do appreciate that.
As a whole, I think it would help to keep in mind that ppl on achat are not pixels but real people behind avis, with their own real life own character and own moods (exception made for robot girl :p). One cant know for sure if whatever said (or kept hanging) is turning on/ turning off / neutral
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It might sound wierd, saying this here, but what turns me off, is the hardcore dirty talk... my partner wanting me to call her a bitch, whore, slut, and things of that nature.
The other thing that turns me off, is... NOT talking. I hate pose hoppers.
Hi Trekman xx
At least I've never asked you to use language like that. I am in agreement with you and Rukya on this!
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Hiya's...
Turn off: After getting contacted by someone then me being expected to carry the conversation after just 2 or 3 lines, which usually goes like this:
Person: hi
ME: Hiya
Person: how are you?
ME: Pretty good, thanks... How about you?
Person: good, too
Then silence... Am I supposed to carry the conversation from here?
Turn off: I don't know about anyone else... but having terms of endearment used to open the conversation is a turn off for me. "hi baby"... or even worse "hi bb"... I have a name, it's Pafe, please use it first... if we build a relationship, then terms of endearment can be used.
Turn off: Being called "Mommy" or offers of incest...
Big turn off: Number one though is having the person I'm chatting with suddenly be busy because they went into a room without telling me. There is no excuse for that. It makes me feel as though I'm not worth the effort to be polite to. I usually don't get into conversations with them again, because I know if they did it once, they'll do it again so why waste my time?
Thanks for letting me share,
Pafe
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Well I don't "troll" out there for responses too often anymore, I would recommend that any new player understand a couple of points...
One the prospective party you are approaching is likely in conversation...
Two... possibly that party is heavily battereed with chat...
a "hi" isn't a bad thing in my opinion... I respond to "Hi" a lot... it's what follows that counts if you get a response..
I think that most will agree,... responding to a "hi" is giving them a chance to make an impression...they should use the opportunity wisely...
Where I get turned off is impatience... that my response is a greenlight and presumption I am going to just immediately room. Worst asking me if I like 3some play and immediately giving me the cold invite ... on presumptions of my yes meaning right now... BIG turnoff.
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I don't like cold invites or "wanna fuck" or something like "why don't you accept my invite, bitch" after a cold invite.
I like to chat first with the person to know if there's a click with him/her.
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another thing i dont like , a master who send his sub to ask me for a 3 some . ;D
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I answer to each "hi". It's ok for me cause the person might be shy or just trying to find out if I'm at my computer. If this person has a meaningful description (banner, country...) my answer is longer. I fthere is just a "nude" profil I also answer "hi" and give the chance to start a chat.
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another thing i dont like , a master who send his sub to ask me for a 3 some . ;D
To me this kind of behavior is irresponsible on the part of a Dominant. If a sub has given you thier body and soul to enslave then that person is totally in your care. You should be looking out for their well being at all times. That includes carefully selecting sex partners for them, not the other way around.
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another thing i dont like , a master who send his sub to ask me for a 3 some . ;D
To me this kind of behavior is irresponsible on the part of a Dominant. If a sub has given you thier body and soul to enslave then that person is totally in your care. You should be looking out for their well being at all times. That includes carefully selecting sex partners for them, not the other way around.
Mistress Christy, I will tell you of a sub who gets their very pleasure from having just this done to her.
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blue,
It's ok to get pleasure from this kind of act. But a level of control should be maintained at all times. If I send a sub to ask people to come have sex with us, they will always be people I know and have spoken to in advance. I would never send a sub out "blind" to make these kinds of requests. For one thing it allows the sub to make choices for the Dominant. Other Dominants may be ok with this, but I think it weakens the bond between the Dominant and the sub. And really I think it's just plain rude to send one of my subs to someone I don't know to ask them to have sex with me. I don't want to be treated that way, so I wouldn't have one of my subs do it either.
blue, I'll send you a PM about another issue.
--Miss Christy
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In RL... I would agree Christy... the nature and setup of this place leaves some issues to be desired. Depending on the sex of the Dom... finding a willing partner to partake in 3some play is sometimes difficult. Finding individuals willing and happy for strictly 3some play with a sub,... and without prospect of one on one time with her is an issue. There is a calculated balance there.. I personally feel dommes have a distinct advantage in finding a male partner... most guys would drool at the prospect of 2 women on him....
Using a sub for clod calls provides a slight advantage of an ice breaker....and really I don't necessarily see this as right or wrong... this may happen to fit the pattern of the kink between the Dom and sub. Each Dom has a specific level of control they wish to exercise...and each sub a level of control they are willing to relinquish. This might fit the dominates end play of absolute anominity of the the 3rd partner.
It's never really fit my style either... I myself desired a good deal more control over the circumstances when I did played it, and though open to suggestions from a sub... took the decision upon myself who played and who did not.
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That may be, and I wouldn't tell another Dominant how to handle their sub any more than I would tell a mother how to raise her children. But like I said, to me anyway, regardless of real world or virtual, it gives the sub mixed signals to be making choices for the dominant. And I find it rude when I am approached on behalf of a sub, so I don't do it either. I still find it best to engage the person first myself and then let the sub approach them as though that person was a stranger. There is little difference in the sub's mind about who they are approaching. Yet I still am able to be selective about what activities my sub will engage in.
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Well, I think I might just get a bit put out that a sub would approach me too on behalf of a Dom or Mistress ... Seems the Dom or Mistress would be a bit of a wuss if they couldnt ask themselves .... lol ... mmmm .... doesnt that defeat the object somewhat ... ?
Ask for yourself or dont ask at all :D
Anyway that would be the next number on my list , after England losing the footy ( Grrr ) lmao
( Number 11, I just checked :) )
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For me the sub and domme pov is a little irrelevant. The fact I may be one or the other is totally up to me at the time and dependent on whom I am with in AChat. My preference is the more the versatile ... were it is switching back and forth depending on situation.
I can see the arguement of people wanting to control their subs or look out for their subs makes sense. That being said it all comes down to how people lay down the rules of the sub/dom relationship... you can always end it if it doesn't fit.
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I agree with almost everything that has been pointed out here.
I don't get upset if someone suddenly leaves a room or goes busy while chatting, I just don't find it worth to get myself worked up about.
I really dislike the utterly and completely rude remarks from ignorant people that just see me as a thing rather than a person because of who I am or the people that are so enamored with the sexuality of MTF transsexuals that they can only see their own interest and scenarios.
I of course have to answer a lot of questions about my transsexuality and such... I don't mind that but to be honest it's a bit of a turn off to get down to that all the time.
Know exactly what you mean Adera. Listed below are just a few of the select things that have been said to me out here at some point or another.
1.) I've been referred to as a lousy shemale.
2.) I've been referred to as a whore.
3.) I've been told by some of the male members that I was worthless, and that I needed them to show me my proper place in the world.
4.) I've been stalked out here.
These are just a few of the things that I've been turned off by. You know me, & you know damn well the person that I am.
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Know exactly what you mean Adera. Listed below are just a few of the select things that have been said to me out here at some point or another.
1.) I've been referred to as a lousy shemale.
2.) I've been referred to as a whore.
3.) I've been told by some of the male members that I was worthless, and that I needed them to show me my proper place in the world.
4.) I've been stalked out here.
These are just a few of the things that I've been turned off by. You know me, & you know damn well the person that I am.
Hi sm3369.
Those things that they say to you is monstorous in my opinion. I have learnt over time that anything negative that people say towards another is more the reflection on them not on the person they are being negative to. So no matter what they say it can only be put in its appropriate place. The bin or back onto them. They wish to criticise somebody to make themselves bigger and better it simply shows how fragile their ego/sexuality/emotions/psychology/knowledge is. People that have worth in themselves should never need to do that to another and can respect the other.
Everyone has worth ... whether we prove ourselves deserving of it or not. Ultimately you have to decide that for yourself.
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Exactly kitten...
It pretty sad dealing with folks who do this and think humiliation and abuse of another elevates themselves...
Do not see the truth that they tarnish themselves...
Respect goes a long ways...
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blue,
It's ok to get pleasure from this kind of act. But a level of control should be maintained at all times. If I send a sub to ask people to come have sex with us, they will always be people I know and have spoken to in advance. I would never send a sub out "blind" to make these kinds of requests. For one thing it allows the sub to make choices for the Dominant. Other Dominants may be ok with this, but I think it weakens the bond between the Dominant and the sub. And really I think it's just plain rude to send one of my subs to someone I don't know to ask them to have sex with me. I don't want to be treated that way, so I wouldn't have one of my subs do it either.
blue, I'll send you a PM about another issue.
--Miss Christy
Not only do I agree with your response, but an analogy to RL illustrates the approach as even more ludicrous. I would roar with hysterical laughter if someone in a nightclub strolled across the room to deliver the line, "My friend would like to sleep with you". ;D
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My ... I don't think about what make me off ...
It is different , for my mood , for my previous experiences and feelings ...
A Thing that really turn me OFF is asking requests about ... Realworld Stuff ( Pics , Cams , Mails ... )
They kills my fun a lot , but still, for some who are imaginative and fun ... it is not a reason to "IGNORE" them .
Else .. well I don't have rules : a word, maybe a comma may change the magic to a duty ...
I can't express what is the red line between fun and duty .
I can't express what is the red line between fully enjoyment and borness ...
That's the magic of life !
This.
I so agree. My life is MY life. this is not it. this is fun and games.
Like in Yahoo chat back when "ASL" "Why? I'm not gonna meet you"
I'm here to cyber, have fun, make up fantasies and exercise my imagination.
If I make good friends with someone, that's wonderful and a whole other story.
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blue,
It's ok to get pleasure from this kind of act. But a level of control should be maintained at all times. If I send a sub to ask people to come have sex with us, they will always be people I know and have spoken to in advance. I would never send a sub out "blind" to make these kinds of requests. For one thing it allows the sub to make choices for the Dominant. Other Dominants may be ok with this, but I think it weakens the bond between the Dominant and the sub. And really I think it's just plain rude to send one of my subs to someone I don't know to ask them to have sex with me. I don't want to be treated that way, so I wouldn't have one of my subs do it either.
blue, I'll send you a PM about another issue.
--Miss Christy
Not only do I agree with your response, but an analogy to RL illustrates the approach as even more ludicrous. I would roar with hysterical laughter if someone in a nightclub strolled across the room to deliver the line, "My friend would like to sleep with you". ;D
I wasn't talking about myself, I can assure anyone that I would not ask, would not allow myself to be.
But I do know someone who does. She is not a monster, I like her. What she likes is not for me, but I do not condemn her for her choices.
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what turns me off in chat : people who ask me : can we go to a room , i want to TRY a shemale .
To try ?
Am i a try object ?
grrrrr... hate that .
greets shejoy
ps. to the youngsters ( girls who don't do this , don't be angry ) please don't leave in a split second without saying anything after you had your fun ( squirt or whatever ) , i hate that !
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There's quite a few people like that and I'm not really interested in being an object either. I wish they'd reflect on how their request sounds.
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what turns me off in chat : people who ask me : can we go to a room , i want to TRY a shemale .
To try ?
Am i a try object ?
grrrrr... hate that .
greets shejoy
ps. to the youngsters ( girls who don't do this , don't be angry ) please don't leave in a split second without saying anything after you had your fun ( squirt or whatever ) , i hate that !
I agree. You "try" to pin the tail on the donkey... you don't "try" a person.
Hope things are going better for you.
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why do people ask when you are chatting to them... What are you doing now.. I hate that..
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@ lydiarose : hehe yes , in the cathegory of stupid questions ;D . Generally , when someone ask me that , i anwser : i'm chatting with someone
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And this is nothing but the truth :D
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:D
Something that turns me off: When you're talking to someone and then the person types something and then says "Sorry, that wasn't for you lol". :D
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Rukya; How is this for a stupid Question that a preson asked me one day on here.. Could you get As from having sex in this game,( I let ye work out what As is) So I told that preson no way could you get it but your PC could and told them to watch out for.. if you are in the game and the game froze that was the start of it and to turn off the PC right away and dont come back to game for a few months.. have not see that preson in
game for a long time...
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Something that turns me off: When you're talking to someone and then the person types something and then says "Sorry, that wasn't for you lol
Sometimes this happens when you just are friendly, answering the question of another person.... oh sorry, that wasnt for you :D
I didnt like to get cold invites and after I was friendly, telling this person I dont accept cold invites because I like to talk before... I get "ok, hi... how are you?" And afterwards.... next invite
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Something that turns me off: When you're talking to someone and then the person types something and then says "Sorry, that wasn't for you lol
Sometimes this happens when you just are friendly, answering the question of another person.... oh sorry, that wasnt for you :D
I didnt like to get cold invites and after I was friendly, telling this person I dont accept cold invites because I like to talk before... I get "ok, hi... how are you?" And afterwards.... next invite
Yes, you're right, that doesn't bother me when i'm talking with friends.
But we are speaking about things that "turn you on/off" , so in my head we are speaking about lovers, as on most of the cases a friend doesn't turn you on or off. ;)
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:D
Something that turns me off: When you're talking to someone and then the person types something and then says "Sorry, that wasn't for you lol". :D
i know this problem , but i did it also already , because i very often forget to change the partner , it's difficult in this chat program when you are talking with a few persons at the same time .
So if i would do this to anyone from here at the forum , already sorry for that ;D ::) :P
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Nice topic
From my perspective, the number one gripe I have is: We've started chatting... We're both being pleasant and the chatting is going well. I send a message and I am informed that the person I was chatting with has gone into a room! No warning, no "I'm going to go into a room with someone"... nothing. The decent thing (IMO) is to at least "end" the chat.
This happened to me just now lol
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loll i hate this too ;D
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To be honest with you, this happens more often than not here on achat. It seems the norm is to just forget all real life etiquette when online ..... would you bump into a friend on the street and start a conversation and then suddenly just turn and walk away without saying a word while they were speaking .... of course not. So why do it here?
i tend to like to chat to someone a little first, rather than cold inviting or just saying "hi. Wanna fuck" :) But the number of times i am making conversation only to then discover mid sentence that the person i am chatting to has just accepted a room invite and disappeared ..... is too many to count. I'd like an achat doller for every time it happens, would be able to afford all the poses, rooms, etc ... lol
Oh, and did I mention how many of these people have 'romantic' or 'talkative' on their profile ... yeah right .... lol. i kind of dont have high expectations of someone with 'sex maniac', i guess coz you might expect them to accept cold invites, etc, so i actually don't get bothered by that too much.
Anyway, if there is one message for all ..... it's just say 'bye' or 'gotta go' or something before running off, it's just the polite thing to do ..... and will make achat a happier place for all :):):)
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I agree with jay9. Some people "forget" even the least courtesy. Funny, very often these people complain about other behaviour...
For me this is a sign of how they really are. On the other hand I always say learn and be grateful. On this way you know who is worth to get more of your attention.
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all the turn offs spoke here in this topic i agree with,and i guess i have to say one of my biggest turn off is indeed the pay for room. I don't have no problems helping some out if I have cash to spare.but to demand it is uncool. I all way try my best to put my partner before me when i room. I do try to be gentleman when I chat and more. Now it doesn't mean i cant be naughty but only when requested.lol If I'm speak about people s manners the way the treat other I find in all my years apart of Achat as a whole to be very poor. I just don't see why its like that. is hard to be kind and friendly to other? now for the forum, i just started here and so fair every is very kind and understanding. witch I hope the game community could be more like.
now from my experience in the poor manners of Achat community, listed form bad to worst.
TS
Female
Males
Ts population Iv meet some very rude ones but i don't think they were real as to who they say they are. above all there very nice and friendly
Females I find Good lot of them are very sweet and kind but there are few ***** in there
now come the men, I out of all the men Find about 60% of them are pure jerks and or other hurt full name.the other 40% there bout 30% of the are normal ever day men and 10% of true gentlemen. this come from my time as with my TS avatar.
this is speaking from my own opinion few of my friends. not to be taken a fact or real assessment.
as one of the guys, I feel little ashamed that they have the nerve to speak to other like that and think it ok too as well. or feel that it cool.
now if i hurt anyones feeling about my thoughts on the poor manner of Achat I'm very sorry.
ps sorry again if you find this little off topic.
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I wish people would be more polite in their conversations. When people leave in the middle of a chat and come back 10 minutes later saying something like I am sorry I need a cup of coffee. Would have been nice before they got the coffee.
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I don't know if it turns me off but it PISSES me off. This happened twice from the same person. I get a cold invite and then look in the person's profile and it says...?
Cold Invites = Ignore
So I responded "Cold Invites = ignore, huh?" then I ignored them.
If you make rules, JESUS CHRIST, follow your own rules.
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You know, it's easier to make rules for other people ;)
But I know it.. it's similar when you get a "hi".. and read their profile "I don't answer to hi"
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I really dont like rude behaviour and people with no patience spamming my chat window all over with. In regards to not answering or answering late i happen to catch myself sometimes forgetting to reply or tell people when i get lots of messages too :-[ :-[ :-[ .
Another little turn of is if they keep asking the same questions all over even if they asked just half an hour before, some people tend to copy & paste their messages to a lot of people, thats a little disappointing ...
Oh well and constant cold invites are a quick way to find the ignore list >:(.
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What turn me off is.......someone starting a chat with by: i want to fuck you! :-[ , I advice them before i go cold to them, that behind an avatar is actually a real woman or man,with feelings too. I ask them ,in real life, when they meet someone , they actually talk like that ? Unless they are a porn start..i dont think so :)
This is a sick world we re livin in , Sick world , ;D
Changing subject: I save my complete avatar body in achat, but everytime i come to game,i only see my shoes ?!?
1 - Why is that happening ?? :'( I already uninstal game ,and re-install. Situation remains the same!!
2 - I want to try for first time, buying a subscription here.I only have Mastercard Visa,Normal ATM Portuguese Card.
3 - How do i buy subscription? Cause there are many types to do that ! THANK YOU .
Big Sweet Kisses to All who Love Achat GAme.
Yours.........Patricia
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Changing subject: I save my complete avatar body in achat, but everytime i come to game,i only see my shoes ?!?
1 - Why is that happening ?? :'( I already uninstal game ,and re-install. Situation remains the same!!
Patricia... I don't understand... are you saying that you're only seeing the avatar's feet? Or do you mean all the clothes are gone except for the shoes?
3 - How do i buy subscription? Cause there are many types to do that ! THANK YOU .
You do that from the AChat shop page. There is a link to the shop at the top of this page. When you get to the shop, log in and at the top of the page is a link reading: Show Profile. It's in really small lettering. Click on that then there's a box on the right side reading "Upgrade" click on that and follow the instructions.
Congratulations on your decision to buy a subscription.
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I think she want to know about the three payment system.....
Patricia1975, if you want to use your credit card (your Mastercard Visa will be work, i presume....the italian Poste Pay - Visa circuit - work for me!) you have to choose the "PAY WITH CREDIT CARD" one, then follow the instruction!
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Covems
Patricia... I don't understand... are you saying that you're only seeing the avatar's feet? Or do you mean all the clothes are gone except for the shoes?
If you now login you see her ava. But as she was online you just could see her feet in the big window. We tried everything and nothing worked. I don't know if it's ok now - we have to wait until she is online again.
The question about payment system is already answered.
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I had a similar problem it was a glitch in the system for about 24 hrs and righted itself in the end, it was as if the save button didn't register the new moves or new clothing. If it continues, report it to Support.
The other possibility, although I dont thing its this, but worth a try.... if you just move the avatar, the "save changes" button at the top does not activate... in order to make it activate, I move my Avi and then click on my skin tone. This activates the "Save changes" button and the new position can be saved. you then "Go to Partner search" and then " Show yourself" Then that should show your new position :)
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The "save changes" button worked... I was on and she did it step by step. We changed her clothes, even the background and banner. In the small pic I saw the changes - but in main window nothing changed. She re-installed the game, made sure she got all updates...
Since she looged out you can see her ava. As long as she was online you just saw feet...lol
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I had a similar problem it was a glitch in the system for about 24 hrs and righted itself in the end, it was as if the save button didn't register the new moves or new clothing. If it continues, report it to Support.
The other possibility, although I dont thing its this, but worth a try.... if you just move the avatar, the "save changes" button at the top does not activate... in order to make it activate, I move my Avi and then click on my skin tone. This activates the "Save changes" button and the new position can be saved. you then "Go to Partner search" and then " Show yourself" Then that should show your new position :)
That was the problem SAVE BUTTON ,didnt actually save
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Hi Sweets, Thank you for all answers,speciall Lover´s help, for my problem. My Avatar problem is resolved,How??
DONT ASK ME, I CANT TELL WHY, BUT IT IS NOW. ::)
Special thanks for fast answers - Covems
hentaiboy69
Brandybee
SPECIAL THANKS and KISS to LOVER.
Yours.........Pati
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Hiya's...
I wouldn't mind showing just my feet if I had lovely boudoir shoes to show.
Some like these (http://i1253.photobucket.com/albums/hh588/Pafe56/skyshoe2.jpg)
Serious though... I'm glad you've gotten everything straighten out Patricia ;D
Thanks for letting me share,
Pafe
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I know this is off topic... and I don't care.
When we had to evacuate from our home because of the hurricane, we get into the car... the wind is howling... it's raining cats and dogs... the surf is pounding. Stuff is being blown all over... What does Pafe say when she gets into the car???
"Oh no... my shoes."
Back on topic: A nice thing about this forum Patricia... there are a lot of people willing to help.
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Hiya's...
I wouldn't mind showing just my feet if I had lovely boudoir shoes to show.
Some like these (http://i1253.photobucket.com/albums/hh588/Pafe56/skyshoe2.jpg)
Serious though... I'm glad you've gotten everything straighten out Patricia ;D
Thanks for letting me share,
Pafe
THANK YOU PAFE
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I know this is off topic... and I don't care.
When we had to evacuate from our home because of the hurricane, we get into the car... the wind is howling... it's raining cats and dogs... the surf is pounding. Stuff is being blown all over... What does Pafe say when she gets into the car???
"Oh no... my shoes."
Back on topic: A nice thing about this forum Patricia... there are a lot of people willing to help.
Ah ah ah! Yea, that's perfectly in Pafe style..... :D :D
We need to remember to gift her with a full closet of boudoir shoes for her next birthday! ;D
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OK, I got something new to bitch about.
"I like your age." , "It's good you are mature." blah blah and blah. Yeah, I'm so glad I got your fucking approval.
Hey, mention my age again because, honey, that's REALLY working for ya.
Yes I know, seems harsh but I'm so fucking tired of it.
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Just tell them real women don't have an age... and ask what they are going to do when they're 18.
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Seems like some gets caught on one thing about you and then blurts that out thinking we'll feel complimented about that.
I was hoping that others got more appropriate lines thrown their way than what I get as a tgirl, but it seems as if that's not the case... sadly.
I've had some say something in likes of "I like it that you have a cock", that instantly makes me think "Oh, so that's the one particular thing you like about me? Does that mean you don't like females? Because if you don't, you don't like me either... you just don't know it".
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EXACTLY, they just shoved you into a catagory and that's why they like you. And we are supposed to feel complimented by that?
Don't like me because I'm imaginative or a snappy dresser or even just that I have a witty tagline. "OH, you are (BLANK), so I like you."
P.S. that is why I hate the whole "You want some black cock, baby?" and the whole "Black" thing. they just did it to themselves, they put themselves in a catagory and have become an object of just that one thing. We are all deeper than that. I hope so.
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There's two things that i've found that really turn me off. Well, two things that i'm not willing to overlook anyway.
First is people not reading my profile, then making assumptions about me or some really ignorant comment which could have easily been avoided if they did read it.
Second is something that's just. Bleugh. Three times now I've had people ask me, If I would like to take part in a Rape role play. Errr... What? Now I clarified this with them and one did admit he was wrong and it was mind break/forced sex he wanted. But the other two. Nope! Well that's not a buzz kill or anything, being offered to not enjoy yourself. Just, what?
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EXACTLY, they just shoved you into a catagory and that's why they like you.
Being put into a category reminds me of this M&M commercial. With William Levy and Ms. Brown (who happens to be an M&M)
Here we have a lunchtime discussion between very good-looking telenovela star William Levy and his paramour, M&M's candy Ms. Brown, who is also very good-looking—if you’re into eating chocolate. But while Levy has made a career out of being outrageously handsome (and, occasionally, "emoting") on Mexican soap operas and Dancing With the Stars, Ms. Brown doesn’t want to be defined by her looks.
Levy: "Oh... you look delicious today."
Ms. Brown: Delicious? Honestly, sometimes I think you only like me because I'm an M&M."
Levy: "That's not true. What matters to me most is what's on the inside."
Ms. Brown: "I'm pure milk chocolate in the inside."
Levy: "I love that about you."
Ms. Brown: "Ugh. And here I thought you loved me for my brain."
Levy: "Is that made of chocolate too?"
Lucky for Levy, Ms. Brown’s exasperation can only last so long before she, too, caves to the superficial and states the obvious: “Gosh, you’re handsome.”
(http://www.adweek.com/files/imagecache/node-detail/news_article/aod-mm-ms-brown-hed-2012.jpg)
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EXACTLY, they just shoved you into a catagory and that's why they like you. And we are supposed to feel complimented by that?
Don't like me because I'm imaginative or a snappy dresser or even just that I have a witty tagline. "OH, you are (BLANK), so I like you."
P.S. that is why I hate the whole "You want some black cock, baby?" and the whole "Black" thing. they just did it to themselves, they put themselves in a catagory and have become an object of just that one thing. We are all deeper than that. I hope so.
They're probably baffled by all the cold shoulders they get.
There are however some that likes to get degraded and objectified, but that's not something people should just assume right off the bat. I for one like some of that, but there's a time and place for it.
There's two things that i've found that really turn me off. Well, two things that i'm not willing to overlook anyway.
First is people not reading my profile, then making assumptions about me or some really ignorant comment which could have easily been avoided if they did read it.
Second is something that's just. Bleugh. Three times now I've had people ask me, If I would like to take part in a Rape role play. Errr... What? Now I clarified this with them and one did admit he was wrong and it was mind break/forced sex he wanted. But the other two. Nope! Well that's not a buzz kill or anything, being offered to not enjoy yourself. Just, what?
Yeah, I also hate it when people doesn't read my profile, especially when they then asks something like which country I'm from. If they wont bother reading my profile I wont bother with them.
Forced, rough and such are fine... but rape just sounds wrong.
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I did rape role play a few times on Yahoo and they didn't like it. hehehe
The guy expects you to eventually submit or start to like it... Um, no. You want a rape scene? we're doing a rape scene and I fight and scream and bitch through the whole thing. ( I am a writer)
They try to type in "you are starting to get excited by my fucking(or whatever)..." NO I'M NOT!... eventualy they leave.
LOL, ohhhh good times, good times.
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Ahaha, they did get what they asked for.
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Whether this is right or wrong I'm not sure but it did annoy me ...
A submissive approached me to have MFF with her Master..
I was obviously polite to the submissive, she was respectful, but I was annoyed that the Dom didn't approach me first, mainly by his assumption that he could send someone else to do his dirty work, that I am perhaps a submissive and a simple conversation would easily have ascertained my views on the subject as a whole & my sexuality ...
I politely refused the request and said her Master should make the request himself.
He did approach me eventually and said he sent his slaves out to get him fresh ass and pussy & that I needed a proper man .... that made for an interesting conversation....
Anyway back to topic ... I personally found that a complete turn off, never mind the fact it says HETERO on my profile, and therefore the FF part would not be my thing, never mind his arrogance and assumptions ... grrrrrrrr ;D
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Doesn't seem like that was a proper man, nor a very manly man either. Excuse the language but why do insecure little shitheads have to try and act all dominant?
Imo that's something that's supposed to be somewhat natural to the individual, like having charm, principles and such.
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He did approach me eventually and said he sent his slaves out to get him fresh ass and pussy & that I needed a proper man .... that made for an interesting conversation....
ROFTLOL!
That's what I call a Cookie Monster!
I'm sure you've put him in his place, Brandy! I'm laughing here with your post.
That would absolutely turn me off!
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I did rape role play a few times on Yahoo and they didn't like it. hehehe
The guy expects you to eventually submit or start to like it... Um, no. You want a rape scene? we're doing a rape scene and I fight and scream and bitch through the whole thing. ( I am a writer)
They try to type in "you are starting to get excited by my fucking(or whatever)..." NO I'M NOT!... eventualy they leave.
LOL, ohhhh good times, good times.
This is where the whole people telling you how you react is alot silly or they try to some how change your reactions. I had one person type my reactions for me I stopped them point blank saying. "I am having the reactions would you please let me have them if you just want to write a dialogue script you might as well do it with the robots." or something like that.
Some can accept that others just leave because they aren't "getting off" but really if you have to get off by telling someone how they react you might as well not be chatting with someone. Fantasy is fine but if your interacting with someone let them interact.
Doesn't seem like that was a proper man, nor a very manly man either. Excuse the language but why do insecure little shitheads have to try and act all dominant?
Imo that's something that's supposed to be somewhat natural to the individual, like having charm, principles and such.
Overcompensation they try to do so because they aren't you can tell it from a kilometer away.
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It's just so sad, doing things like that will make many dislike them... it would be better if they worked on their good traits.
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Yesterday a guy said something kinda like this to me "We should room, you look horny"... who is he to tell me that I look horny!? If he wants to room with me he should try and make me interested, not tell me so.
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AAARRRGGGG !!! if your avatar looks horny , it mean all female avatar looks horny too !!!!
This explain why most of peoples dont take time to read the profiles ;D
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Yesterday a guy said something kinda like this to me "We should room, you look horny"... who is he to tell me that I look horny!? If he wants to room with me he should try and make me interested, not tell me so.
lol.....that's damn stupid thing to say.......or maybe it's he's best approach, lol!
Rukya, most people don't read profile cause they probably mean it's useless....isn't it pathetic!? well, if one of the guys i had room with at last get mad cause i'm not a shemale is their problem.....they don't want to read! :P
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I did rape role play a few times on Yahoo and they didn't like it. hehehe
The guy expects you to eventually submit or start to like it... Um, no. You want a rape scene? we're doing a rape scene and I fight and scream and bitch through the whole thing. ( I am a writer)
They try to type in "you are starting to get excited by my fucking(or whatever)..." NO I'M NOT!... eventualy they leave.
LOL, ohhhh good times, good times.
This is where the whole people telling you how you react is alot silly or they try to some how change your reactions. I had one person type my reactions for me I stopped them point blank saying. "I am having the reactions would you please let me have them if you just want to write a dialogue script you might as well do it with the robots." or something like that.
Some can accept that others just leave because they aren't "getting off" but really if you have to get off by telling someone how they react you might as well not be chatting with someone. Fantasy is fine but if your interacting with someone let them interact.
I had a similar experience a while back, its really no fun at all if he keeps telling everything, its like beeing a doll and i told him that directly.
@hentaiboy LMAO i'm laughing sooo hard now ;D ;D ;D, did that really happen to you ? i am trying to imagine the scene ... gosh you made me giggle a lot :D!
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Cheya, honestly till now, all the guys who know i'm not a shemale in RL are happy to see me and like to room with me......but if it will happen, i'll make you know! ;)
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Yesterday a guy said something kinda like this to me "We should room, you look horny"... who is he to tell me that I look horny!? If he wants to room with me he should try and make me interested, not tell me so.
lol.....that's damn stupid thing to say.......or maybe it's he's best approach, lol!
Rukya, most people don't read profile cause they probably mean it's useless....isn't it pathetic!? well, if one of the guys i had room with at last get mad cause i'm not a shemale is their problem.....they don't want to read! :P
This happens to me a lot D:
They fail to read, we room, and then I role play being a guy in women's clothing and they flee. Oh god do they flee! As cruel as it is, it's also rather humorous. :D
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To be called a baby (babe, bb and so on). For me that's a big turnoff :)
And, of course, people who cannot read my info do either turn me off instantly or switch me to sarcastic mode :)
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Here is something i got the other day in game
guy; Hello Lydia
Before i could answer this is what he send me
would like to pressing you softly again a wall and grinding my boby into you
I send hello
guy; have I got your attention
me; yes
guy; girl do you sprand you legs and invite my body closer as i push to grind firmly between you legs
me;LOL
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well, that was a different approach, nothing to say..... :o
the problem is if the one who receive it like it or not!
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Yeah. As for me, i do not like it that way. As far as i can guess, not many ladies would like it as well :D
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Quite a lot of men that I respond to start off with some small talk, which is nice, but then they just ask if I want to room or something of the like out of the blue. Well maybe not out of the blue, it's not very surprising considering the setting but still... I just wish they'd try to woo me and excite me before asking.
It feels so mechanical and boring when they ask that way, it's as if they're saying "Hey I'm horny, are you horny as well? If so we could room y'know".
If they however tried to make me interested in an increasing manner, which some men does I might add, then I might think that this guy seems interesting and that playing with him could be quite fun.
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Most people here forget that, though it's a sex game, they have to be interesting and that there has to be a (little) connection and sypathy between two people before rooming. Most just want a real person behind the screen just for their OWN fun.
Beside girls from forum and perhaps one or two exceptions, all the last chats when new girls started to talk to me have been like this:
"hi"... "sex?"
Sometimes they also ask "how are you"
The good ones say "Youre nice" or "I like how youre dressed"..and afterwards "sex?"...lol
They all get the same answer. I just room with my spouse. Yesterday one girl asked me afterwards if I have all poses, which I agreed. Next she asked, if I invite her....crazy :)
My favs are whores or girls asking after a "hello" if I can give them money for their subscription.
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Speaking of 'how are you'... I had written in my info 'I'm fine, thank you' as an answer, and i can tell, almost all (not only men) who tried to contact me didn't read that. And when they ask me how am i, i answer 'just as i wrote in my info!'.
But the winners are still those who start from 'wanna suck my [industrial-grade tool]' or 'I'm so horny, let's go to the room!' I'm glad they are so excited about themselves, but what should that matter to me? :D
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Yeah, I get a lot of girls approaching me that way too, I never room with them.
Actually, I'd be happy if guys asked me if I want to suck theirs... most ask if they can suck mine for some reason. :-\
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Hm, I can understand that. I was wondering why women keep asking me for sex with them, and asked some of them. One explained it like she sees me, a shemale, as a softer version of male, as someone with [a male bodypart she wants] but with more woman-like personality. I guess, it could be common image of a shemale to women (to those of them who are willing to tolerate trangender persons)
As for men view on me, i was told about two images. One is a woman with [something], and that's how i see myself. And another is a man with breasts. That's might be the answer about their reasons...
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G1adys
Speaking of 'how are you'... I had written in my info 'I'm fine, thank you' as an answer, and i can tell, almost all (not only men) who tried to contact me didn't read that. And when they ask me how am i, i answer 'just as i wrote in my info!'.
That's an old topic... most aren't able to read profiles. Or aren't interested which just shows their lack of attitude about a real talk or wish to know more about the person. Makes it easier for you to send them away :)
But the winners are still those who start from 'wanna suck my [industrial-grade tool]' or 'I'm so horny, let's go to the room!' I'm glad they are so excited about themselves, but what should that matter to me? Cheesy
Perhaps they think it makes you horny too :D Hey, be nice and get a little bit horny....lol
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Softer version of a male... yeah I've heard that as well, they don't know how insulting that is. Even if everyone doesn't put it like that it's kinda how they see things and that's easy to notice... so I just tell them that I'm not interested.
Women that doesn't have a genuine interest in other women aren't interesting for me in that way.
Men that sees us as women that just happens to have something different actually comes quite close to the truth.
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I agree with everything.
The cold invites are just a big turn off...
But sometimes you have something like this...
"hello :) I wonder if you'd like a nice terrace facing the sea at sunset, surrounded by flowers, you and me dancing.... and then just let our imagination to fly away"
:) With something like this, you HAVE to reply. Even if it's just to say "Sorry I'm busy..." or "not interested.."
But you still HAVE to reply. :)
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"hello :) I wonder if you'd like a nice terrace facing the sea at sunset, surrounded by flowers, you and me dancing.... and then just let our imagination to fly away"
I have done this for real and yes you have to answer
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Oh no they don't.
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Oh no they don't.
They don't, what, Covems? :D
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Oh no they don't.
They don't, what, Covems? :D
Answer
You should try AChat in someone else's shoes.
I issue a challenge to all you ladies... Create a new account... but sign up as a MALE... stay as a free user, then spend an hour or two trying to have a conversation with a female or a shemale. Then, if you're really adventurous, make that MALE character premium... again... try starting up a conversation. Then record your experience here in the Forum. You don't have to room with anyone... just try and start a conversation... see how it goes. And no fair contacting folks you already know and explaining what yoiu're doing. Go ahead... see what it's like.
I issue the same challenge to the male population here. Create a FEMALE character then spend an hour or two on AChat. Pafe and Satoire issued this challenge to me when I first started, and told me to think about how some of the messages make you feel. I accepted the challenge and even gifted the NEW character so I could make "her/me" premium. I tell you, it gave me a whole new perspective on how women get treated here.
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I issue a challenge to all you ladies... Create a new account... but sign up as a MALE... stay as a free user, then spend an hour or two trying to have a conversation with a female or a shemale. Then, if you're really adventurous, make that MALE character premium... again... try starting up a conversation. Then record your experience here in the Forum. You don't have to room with anyone... just try and start a conversation... see how it goes. And no fair contacting folks you already know and explaining what yoiu're doing. Go ahead... see what it's like.
Covems, i have a good taste of it till now, i can swear it........sometimes thay are annoying, it's a real pain when your screen start to be fulfilled by cold invite and your board submerged by "Hi, are you looking for fun!?", specially when you are in the middle of a chat with friends! But sometimes can be nice just to let your reasone lose control and just ienjoy some fun......of course, there must be respect, this is important....
And let me say a last word about male free users: it happend to me someone said "i'm glad you just answer me, others never do" even if i just daid "sorry, waiting a friend for a date". And we talk about how to push people to become premium.....if we don't try to give to free a chance to know AChat a little, they will never enjoy it! So, my friends and ladies.....try to give a chance to the one who send a message in a polite mode, they can surprise you!
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As for me, i do not judge people by their subscription status. I can chat and play with free users, if they are nice, and i have both free and premium users in my blacklist (although free ones greatly outnumber the subscribers in there).
But as a shemale i cannot play with free users when my subscription is expired. Shemales do not have even two free poses! So, most of time the only thing i can give to a free user is chat :D
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I issue a challenge to all you ladies... Create a new account... but sign up as a MALE... stay as a free user, then spend an hour or two trying to have a conversation with a female or a shemale. Then, if you're really adventurous, make that MALE character premium... again... try starting up a conversation. Then record your experience here in the Forum. You don't have to room with anyone... just try and start a conversation... see how it goes. And no fair contacting folks you already know and explaining what yoiu're doing. Go ahead... see what it's like.
Covems, i have a good taste of it till now, i can swear it........sometimes thay are annoying, it's a real pain when your screen start to be fulfilled by cold invite and your board submerged by "Hi, are you looking for fun!?", specially when you are in the middle of a chat with friends! But sometimes can be nice just to let your reasone lose control and just ienjoy some fun......of course, there must be respect, this is important....
And let me say a last word about male free users: it happend to me someone said "i'm glad you just answer me, others never do" even if i just daid "sorry, waiting a friend for a date". And we talk about how to push people to become premium.....if we don't try to give to free a chance to know AChat a little, they will never enjoy it! So, my friends and ladies.....try to give a chance to the one who send a message in a polite mode, they can surprise you!
I experienced that too, some people were telling me that they tried to talk with woman for hours and that i was the first one to reply which they were really thankful for. Sadly quite a few people seem to judge each others by their subscription status :(.
There seem to be black sheeps on either side, i have to confess that i miss to reply sometimes as well, due to being very busy or highly annoyed of people spamming messages over and over again.
There are still people who spam their messages or cold invites a couple of times, or people who keep asking you if you are busy just because it takes you a few more seconds to reply and last but not least the abbreviations specialists "hi hru ...thx f u ?" and it goes on and on ...
Countless examples could be posted, i think the best advice would be to treat your chat partner the way you want to be treated.
Nevertheless it is going to be a steady learning curve and with that there might come more success as well :)
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I do not remember was it already discussed or not, but for me one of the turnoffs is when a man goes into measurements of his... piece of equipment :D
First, size does not matter to me. Uhm... almost does not matter. As a shemale, i prefer smaller sizes. But the most funny thing here is:
Achat is a videogame, and all men have one size here. I see nothing to brag about :D
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Countless examples could be posted, i think the best advice would be to treat your chat partner the way you want to be treated.
Nevertheless it is going to be a steady learning curve and with that there might come more success as well :)
Cheya, i absolutely agree with you! and i think lot of users forget who is on the other side of the screen: a real person with own feeling and not a AI of a PC who interact with us!
It can be ok to play the role of a rude person, but only with the one who agree with it and who can accept the role of the insulted one (just to be extreme!) if this is something you and your partner both agree!
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Ahaha yeah, quite a few wants to talk about sizes, they quite often ask me how big my breasts or my penis are. Personally I don't mind answering a few questions like that if they like it... though I've noticed that not everyone likes the answers. Oh well, too bad for them. ::)
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Ahaha yeah, quite a few wants to talk about sizes, they quite often ask me how big my breasts or my penis are. Personally I don't mind answering a few questions like that if they like it... though I've noticed that not everyone likes the answers. Oh well, too bad for them. ::)
Lol Adera! I had to laugh here reading your post.
@HB you're right. We can't forget who is on the other side of the screen: a real person with own feelings. However, when you get a message saying "Let me f... you." or something like that, well I speak for myself, I usually don't reply. 1st because sometimes if you reply, it will get worse, and 2nd that kind of message usually comes from someone that rooms within secs with someone else if you don't reply! :D
When I've got a tender and polite message, like that one I've posted, I usually find myself replying, even if it's just to say "Sorry... I'm busy, but thank you."
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Or .... Sorry, I am not interviewing for new slaves at the moment lol
Well, sometimes .. you got to have fun ;D
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@HB you're right. We can't forget who is on the other side of the screen: a real person with own feelings. However, when you get a message saying "Let me f... you." or something like that, well I speak for myself, I usually don't reply. 1st because sometimes if you reply, it will get worse, and 2nd that kind of message usually comes from someone that rooms within secs with someone else if you don't reply! :D
Marilyn, i was talking about the one who send the message......if sometimes men they think with the upper head.... ::)
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Or .... Sorry, I am not interviewing for new slaves at the moment lol
Well, sometimes .. you got to have fun ;D
haha, I'm gonna have to use that one.
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And let me say a last word about male free users: it happend to me someone said "i'm glad you just answer me, others never do" even if i just daid "sorry, waiting a friend for a date".
It happen to me too , as i anwser even to men . Sometimes they seem happy or are surprised too that i anwser :D.
Generally , with these men , i have some nice conversations
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Girls slapping my penis.
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How could they do it in chat? :D
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I think he is talking about action.....or maybe about RL!?
It happen to me too , as i anwser even to men . Sometimes they seem happy or are surprised too that i anwser :D.
Generally , with these men , i have some nice conversations
That's good Rukya! Communication is always a good thing....well, most of the time! ::)
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They slap my penis in chat too.
I also dont like it when I talk to someone, next moment they are busy without saying anything, I mean, they could have at least invited me for a threesome. Its good that you found a genital , but I have one too, so thats two genitals for you! Take advantage of it!
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Common courtesy in my book is that if you have time to talk, one should take a moment to politely excuse yourself from a conversation. 8)
"TY for the chat but need to go...ttys"
....takes 5 seconds to type, even for ole busted fingers here. ::)
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Speaking of common courtesy... I guess most people does not have an idea of what it is. Otherwise they won't call unknown person 'baby'. I've mentioned that somewhere above, and I say it again. I'm not a baby(babe, bb and anything else) to anyone, and that word is insulting.
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Last night i was on writing a msg to a friend i dont see since long time...a chat came to me "hello r u there?"
I check who is and answer "hello ...yes i m here" ...she says " i m ****** 29 y from ***** " ...
I said " i see...i m looking at you now" ....
Her " what r u doin now? "
Me " just writing a msg" ...i click to send and...she's busy in room!
But what?....why you contact me then?
So i sent her a msg " u r very fair"
And i went back to my work.....but....2 mins after she s back lolol
Dont remember what she said but i said " already out of room? "
And her " yes he was not a good man to me "
Lol so i said " you will find my msg when you will login next time"
A min more and she was in room again ...lolol
I did put her in ignore to not being disturbed 3 mins later...lol
And the funniest thing is that i was about to welcome her here in forum as she s one on the new entries
Well
I welcome you in my ign list :)
Someone has told before: treat the others as you like to be treated
Very nice thing to learn
If only people turned on mind before doing anything.....
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I can laugh about almost anything as I don't take it personal. But leaving without a little note is something that just is prooving the disrespect this person has. I don't know the reason for it and I'm not interested to know it. As Bear said, it takes less then 5 seconds to be nice.
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Well i posted it just to laugh together...i m not new at this...pissed off for 3 seconds...they dont deserve more than that
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I do try and answer most that message me, but sometimes I do not have time, as I am already in chat with my Jayc and room.
My profile clearly says that I only room with my man and yet, I am still admonished for a rudeness I do not feel I have committed. If they bother to check, they will see my spouse is on and if he is, he will have all my attention. If he is not, I will chat till I have to go or I meet up with him.
Can you believe, I still get begging requests that they only want 5 or 10 minutes or longer in some cases... what do they think I will do, abandon my spouse or chat I am in, to say , yes of course I will room you immediately ... the mind boggles at times !!!
Its incredible that they even thing I will room while I am waiting for my spouse or while he is on. To me that speaks volumes and is a complete turn off as is someone who cant accept a no. No means No, not maybe and definitely NOT a YES.
Thank you for listening.. I feel better now ;D My 3 seconds are up too ;D
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Yep Freddie... that's my number one peeve, someone I'm chatting with just disappearing into a room without even a "by your leave'. But like you, I'm kind of used to it and then I think about the person being new at this and everything is like them being a kid in a candy store... so I just let it go.
And MIss Stone... I wasn't begging....
Okay... maybe I was...
;D
OOT
Edit: P.S. I am remiss in my duties. Congratulations Miss Stone, on your 100th post... now... if you'd only wirte that story.
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OOT: Congrats Stone for reaching 100 posts :)
What happened to you happened to me too... after telling them I chat, but only room with my girl they ask: "Sex?" Or "Do you invite me now?" LOL... its so funny sometimes...
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Hiya's...
I agree with you all on the point of someone vanishing into a room during a chat it is just plain rude. I've also had some people who have done this. Both, women and men. I always keep that in the back of my mind whenever they want to chat with me again.
Thanks for letting me share,
Pafe
P.S. Congratulations Stone on your posting milestone.
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it happened to me with a man . I must say that i was very patient this day ;D i think i told him every 30 seconds and for 10 to 15 mins that i will not room with him . Yes , another one who dont understand what mean "no , i will not room with you" lol ;D
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Thank you everyone. Does this make me an old sweat now? :o
And MIss Stone... I wasn't begging....
Okay... maybe I was...
;D
OOT
Edit: P.S. I am remiss in my duties. Congratulations Miss Stone, on your 100th post... now... if you'd only wirte that story.
Strawberry yoghurt ? Just happens to be my favourite ... mmm all that creamy goo rolling on my tongue.
OOT
Dog, bone, lol
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for me, somethings turn me off also, dont know if im so peculiar, or just one more:
1. i dont like cold invites. I never do, and i hate it. More when someone who you say hello, never asnwer and send a cold invite.
2. I dont like girls who dont talk and dont acting nothing, just stay there and say sometimes "mmmmmm". In that case, i preffer to go with the robot girl.
3. i dont like when im in room, and the girl want to start to fuck in 2 minutes, no talking, no acting.. notrhing, is like a robot.
4. I dont like rude words, i can understand somepeople like it, not me.
5. Dont like persons that in a middle of a chat, go to room and dont say "have to go" or just... i go ro room, see you later.
6. Dont like girls who in a middle of a chat, ask for a present, and if you say i cant, or not, they go.
7. Dont like liers.
This is what i dont like :)
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1. i dont like cold invites. I never do, and i hate it. More when someone who you say hello, never asnwer and send a cold invite.
I wait until it expires and then say something like "you could try chatting to me, you may be surprised". Although, lol, that often results in another cold invite or a comment like "room?".
2. I dont like girls who dont talk and dont acting nothing, just stay there and say sometimes "mmmmmm". In that case, i preffer to go with the robot girl.
It always amazes me how someone can talk me into a room and then they go quiet. I usually think "wow, they must be so enamored with me (or the room) that they are lost for words". I admit to making an excuse and leaving, if the lack of chatting lasts too long.
3. i dont like when im in room, and the girl want to start to fuck in 2 minutes, no talking, no acting.. notrhing, is like a robot.
well... it depends how horny I am but you are right, I want to be seduced into a fuck. However, one of the things I love about playing Achat is the control that you have. People can't interrupt what you say. And, don't like a pose request? Ignore it and invoke an alternative (and it usually works, I find). Don't like an action? Switch them to another. However, on the other hand it can work against you. I will always remember the guy who refused to kiss me (only he had the action) despite pleading. Needless to say, I left.
4. I dont like rude words, i can understand somepeople like it, not me.
Well, "rude" is rather subjective. I don't swear in rl and I have to admit it is a bit of escapism for me to use them in Achat and I often use mild expletives while making love but there are certain words that I find abhorrent. However, you have only to speak to people and explain that you don't like them and I usually find that they comply. Hell, I look at it that it is their loss if you leave.
5. Dont like persons that in a middle of a chat, go to room and dont say "have to go" or just... i go ro room, see you later.
Ahhh well... I have been guilty of this and, thanks to the good people on this forum that always complain about this sort of thing, I hope I am improving. The only excuse I can offer is... you interrupted me, I was gracious enough to respond, the invite is ticking down.
6. Dont like girls who in a middle of a chat, ask for a present, and if you say i cant, or not, they go.
I was amazed when this happened to me the other day, although they didn't go when I ignored the request. Basically, I don't want money and I don't give money. However, I have paid for subs for a few very good friends and I have taken money, mainly because I can't return it (dammit Achat, why can't I refuse!!). I will be eternally grateful to the person who paid for a 3day sub for me when I first started, despite the fact that I was intending to buy an annual sub anyway. My (controversial, I know) feelings are that if you can't afford a sub then you can't play.
7. Dont like liers.
Well, I don't like liars but... I am a very trusting person. Not only that, this is a role-playing game. For me, in playing this game, no one is a liar.
Sorry, zoerink, not picking on you. It was nice to see a list of things in one place that I could relate to and respond to.
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Your welcome Concerto, i respect your opinion, mainly mine in many ways. Everyone is free to have an opinion, it's the good thing about living in a world almost free (unfortunately, there are still countries where freedom of speech is not a right).
:)
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Hi,
Me I don't like:
1° A free user or a premium who invite me for the first time:
Him> You have poses?
Me> Yes, I've all poses of the game
Him> Good, wanna fuck?
Me> No thank you, I have no time, I'm learning english in the chat. kisses
Yes, I know it's bad but if he said HI at the start, that's change all for me.
And sometimes, I speak a long time with friends in chat, I like that too.
And a lot of invites like that in chat all the days!
I prefer cold invites, I read the profil and I go or not ;)
2° I don't like user who don't speak in room.
3° I don't like people not patients, they think to be alone in the game!
4° I don't like receiving Gifts, I prefer giving Gifts at my good friends of course. I already sent with pleasure.
5° I hate users who ask for gifts... Grrr
Perhaps off topic:
I don't like requests for friend/lover/Spouse from people I've never seen or chat with :'(
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What turns me off
1. The silent cold call
Not even saying hello ,hi ,hey just invite DECLINE BUTTON
2. Do you want to fuck
Again NO hello, hi, just that then invite DECLINE BUTTON
3. Quirt in the room
Have the chat to get me there then nothing in the room
will add more
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I have a very good friend who is a lovely person but sometimes she just has to play with people....
1stPerson: so indian? ** she isn't **
2ndPerson: hi beautifull, want a 8inch tool to help please your needs?
MyFriend to 1stPerson: I'd prefer a chinese :)
....then she thought this was a coincidence...
3rdPerson: hi
3rdPerson: u r indian
MyFriend to 3rdPerson: no I am not
3rdPerson: ok
1stPerson: seen first time a black chinese
MyFriend to 1stPerson: lol I thought you were inviting me for a meal
3rdPerson: u r real sexy babe
1stPerson: lol i am asking wherer are you from
MyFriend to 1stPerson: well it didn't read like that
1stPerson: so tell me
1stPerson: where are you from?
MyFriend to 1stPerson: originally?
1stPerson: yes
MyFriend to 1stPerson: well I was born in Morocco
1stPerson: and living in?
MyFriend to 1stPerson: currently?
1stPerson: yes
MyFriend to 1stPerson: the Hague
1stPerson: oh ok
1stPerson: so am indian too
MyFriend to 1stPerson: not "too" as I am not
...never to be heard from again...
we can never understand how conversations are often so one-sided. She is very honest and offers answers to peoples' questions and yet they rarely respond with the equivalent information about themselves.
....quickly followed by...
4thPerson (with milf as part of name): Hello beauty MyFriend !
4thPerson: You real choco skin ?
MyFriend to 4thPerson: what? choco? have never heard of such a thing
4thPerson: Ok...sorry
4thPerson: Do you like it milf girls ??
MyFriend to 4thPerson: what is milf girl?
4thPerson: Milf.........?? Im 50.......milf pussy !! Right ?
MyFriend to 4thPerson: well if you can't explain it how do I know if I like it or not?
4thPerson: For your thing.....I think.....
MyFriend to 4thPerson: I'm lost
4thPerson: Do you wanna be feel my love _?
MyFriend to 4thPerson: no thanks :)
4thPerson: Correct answer !!! :) Play alone...
MyFriend to 4thPerson: I was before you interrupted
4thPerson: I am busy, please try again later!
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This is a prime example of .... well see for yourself .... Don't forget I have it clearly on my profile I do not room with anyone else but my Spouse too.
HIM: oohhh my god
HIM: stone
HIM: i like you
HIM: very sexy look
HIM: offfff
HIM: really
HIM: why you always sexy look
Stone to HIM: i'm with my spouse. have fun
HIM: i need you
HIM: baby
HIM: i need your all body
HIM: please
HIM: com and sit my cock
Stone to HIM: i just said i am with my spouse
Stone to HIM: you are so disrespectful
Stone to HIM: how dare you talk like that
HIM: hahaaah
HIM: god
HIM: you crayz
Stone to HIM: dont ever talk to me again. you are rude and disrespectful
HIM: hahaaah
HIM:really you crayz
(SORRY I USED DIRECT ACTION HERE I WAS ON A TIME LIMIT)
Stone to HIM: fuck off
HIM: shut up
Stone to HIM : Whats the matter with you?
He then ignored me HIP HIP HORRAH ;D and then I roomed and didn't give him a single thought till now... and now I wont again ... Dipstick.
Another 3 seconds up. ;D
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LOL... STONE
I can imagine... this is so hard lot of times...
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@ Stone: Unfortunately we know, most aren't able to read profiles. I also have written I just room with Marilyn but get many invites. Sometimes I believe it's like they check if the message is true or it's more interesting for them - you say you just room with one girl? I manage to seduce you...
I moved an old existing topic wiht worst pick up lines to this board. There are some funny examples too and this topic is turning off in general in chat.
http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/topic,581.msg47730.html#new
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LOL Just got this
Her to Me: hi if you gift me then i will send you pics and do a room
Me to Her: sorry but why would i want to gift you for that
Me to Her: thats one for the What turns me off in chatting
surprise surprise I didn't get an anwser
LOL
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Well, Lover, you say that but I often get invites from people who have things like "I love my wife xxxx", "My wonderful lover yyyy", etc. etc. as their bylines and I will say (because I always read profiles before I even chat, let alone room) "Doesn't xxxx mind you rooming with others?" or "Do you think yyyy would object to us having sex?" and, amazingly, invariably, it turns out that their partner has given their blessing for them to do whatever they like :)
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@tango: I got the same message :D Afterwards i said i dont want pics and i also dont room with you she was quiet too :)
Concerto, it's a difference if you write "I love my spouse" or "I only room with..."
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Concerto, it's a difference if you write "I love my spouse" or "I only room with..."
Absolutely right......they are two different message, but the problem of users don't reading them remain! >:(
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Thank you all.
I know what you all say is true :) . I was very shortly put out as :-
1) It clearly says on my profile I only room with Jayc
2) I answered his initial chat up, saying I was with my spouse
3) He then was totally disrespectful to us both by saying he wanted me to " sit on his cock"
4) Coupled with - This was an initial contact and " sit on his cock" perhaps not the best line to use as a follow on.
5) Then when I pointed out his rudeness, he went on the attack instead of excusing himself. ( I suppose I was a bit inflamed there :o )
6) And I was annoyed with myself for resorting to his gutter language, when I know, my vocabulary is much more extensive .
Usually, I am more tolerant.
Memo to self .... be more tolerant to Dipsticks... maybe 2 or 3 whole more seconds. mmm.. It might have to be a work in progress ;D
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I am very new here.
Have just finished reading this whole thread.
It should be required reading for all new players.
A special thanks to all who have put up with some of my bungled efforts.
And a very special thanks to the ones with whom I have made a lasting connection.
Life, as we know it, goes on.
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OK, I got something new to bitch about.
"I like your age." , "It's good you are mature." blah blah and blah. Yeah, I'm so glad I got your fucking approval.
Hey, mention my age again because, honey, that's REALLY working for ya.
Yes I know, seems harsh but I'm so fucking tired of it.
GGRRRRRR, STILL!
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GGRRRRRR, STILL!
-sighs- Simpletons
I got a new one being choked or having someone refer to it. So annoying ... I just end conversations there or sessions. I hate when it happens.
Ask before doing it.
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Having the person just leave in the middle of a chat!! Really,
how long does it take to say gtg. I'm not even talking about them going to a room, but just logging off and leaving.
In my defence my router or something has booted me off this past weekend, BUT I will get right back on as quick as I can to explain.
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Having the person just leave in the middle of a chat!! Really,
how long does it take to say gtg. I'm not even talking about them going to a room, but just logging off and leaving.
In my defence my router or something has booted me off this past weekend, BUT I will get right back on as quick as I can to explain.
Andrea, if it's a problem of connection or router, we can understand it......jcm is talking about when your partner in chat disappear in a room, i think!
And yes, i agree, this is not so nice!
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AAAHHHHGGGGGG!. Just had a girl while we were having sex say wait. I'll brb in 5 minutes
And.. what did you do meanwhile? LOL
But this can happen. I don't like it too but it's possible. I really hate when I have to say it :-\ Good luck it just happened a few times in all my years here.
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AAAHHHHGGGGGG!. Just had a girl while we were having sex say wait. I'll brb in 5 minutes
Be happy maybe it was because she soaked her panty ! ;D
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It can happen, personally to me happen frequently, because I don't live alone and my family sometimes breaks in my bedroom and I must hide my tablet and say "Ahh! I'm naked! Go away!" Or something like this, lol
And it takes some minutes while my partner must wait ^.^"
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What turn me off :
- "turning around the pot" when she doesn't say (not exactly) what she want, without the body language i am lost :o,
- asking for A$ unless it is for a roleplay,
- slang overuse, because i cannot understand,
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OK, I got something new to bitch about.
"I like your age." , "It's good you are mature." blah blah and blah. Yeah, I'm so glad I got your fucking approval.
Hey, mention my age again because, honey, that's REALLY working for ya.
Yes I know, seems harsh but I'm so fucking tired of it.
GGRRRRRR, STILL!
Oh yeah... I hear you with that one... it's always' "oh good you are mature"
My answer usually is: "You couldn't have turned me OFF faster with a switch."
And... being called "Mommy" right off the bat is instant ignore. I no longer want to know what that person wants.
I got this one the other evening:
Him: Do u (I'm not even worth a full word) like younger guys?
Me: No... I prefer MEN.
silence
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Nice reply mooncalf
A gentleman never asks a lady her age and would never say anything if they know it
There are still some of us out there mooncalf
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Oh, for sure ....
The M words - Mom, Milf , Mature ... Real men don't use them in their proper patter
Women's equivalent answer.. ... " Yes, Little Dick " ..... Now maybe they will understand ?
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I feel the same about that.
Just this week i was at a college for work and some guy ask one of the lady's from the collage staff how old she was in the middle of the hallway with lots of people around. A thru gentleman, never asks a lady her age, and certainly not in public.
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Good answer mooncalf. Funny is if you say any age and if they ask "really?" you say "no".
For those, like me, having their age in profile it's also funny to be asked "how old are you?"
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The M words - Mom, Milf , Mature ... Real men don't use them in their proper patter
I do.
(http://sr.photos1.fotosearch.com/bthumb/CSP/CSP990/k10548221.jpg)
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Rolling my eyes... ::) muttering affectionately of course " Asshole" sting twitching ... ;D ;D ;D
Munching on lots of cheese onion before I take my turn after Moon calf :-*
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The M words - Mom, Milf , Mature ... Real men don't use them in their proper patter
I do.
Yes you do...
Asshole
(http://thumbs4.ebaystatic.com/d/l225/m/mxG-nsLKtSNj6wbeVlJRLFA.jpg)
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*digging out this old topic*
Hi togeather,
well for me there are some big turnoffs in chat e.g.:
- suddenly leaving for room while chatting with me wiithout any word: I mean, come on, would be okay if she just writes:
"will be in room now" or something like that
- needing too long time to write. For me this means she is chatting with other(s) . Of course I know that there are much more M online than F. Maybe it's just me but it's simply a question of manner.
- asking/begging for dollars
- stopping to answer just in the middle of the chat
However: achat is fun most of the time
Greetings
Oli
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*digging out this old topic*
Hi togeather,
well for me there are some big turnoffs in chat e.g.:
- suddenly leaving for room while chatting with me wiithout any word: I mean, come on, would be okay if she just writes:
"will be in room now" or something like that
- needing too long time to write. For me this means she is chatting with other(s) . Of course I know that there are much more M online than F. Maybe it's just me but it's simply a question of manner.
- asking/begging for dollars
- stopping to answer just in the middle of the chat
However: achat is fun most of the time
Greetings
Oli
Hi Welcome to the Forum and this topic.
- I can agree with the suddenly leaving being rude personally I let the other people I am talking to know not everyone does that and it can be annoying. (Usually I only talk to people that are on the forums)
- To be fair you cant get angry with this one usually when it comes to chatting there is several people messaging at once and some just cant take a hint being more patient in that regard probably would be more beneficial to you. Remember in a room we cant talk with anyone else and it could be that a friend has hopped on that they wanted to talk to before you were talking to them. Plus getting impatient with someone and displaying that to them just doesn't go overly well in your favour.
- Cant agree more with that ... I for one will not ask for any form of payment at all the idea is mutual fun not exploitation.
- I am unclear what you mean here so I am gonna assume you mean while in the room. Thats something thats normal if your asking questions. If out of the room thats just normal for responses stopping to answer is just something that occurs.
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*digging out this old topic*
Hi togeather,
well for me there are some big turnoffs in chat e.g.:
- suddenly leaving for room while chatting with me wiithout any word: I mean, come on, would be okay if she just writes:
"will be in room now" or something like that
- needing too long time to write. For me this means she is chatting with other(s) . Of course I know that there are much more M online than F. Maybe it's just me but it's simply a question of manner.
- asking/begging for dollars
- stopping to answer just in the middle of the chat
However: achat is fun most of the time
Greetings
Oli
Hi Oli,
Just picking up on your second point here.
Players do chat to several people at once and perhaps if you presume that they are chatting with others, you would not be so offended.
Even if you have arranged a date or have a priority lover or spouse, it is always polite to ask if they are ready before sending the invite, so they can finish their chat.
This has worked very well with Jayc and I. We have been a couple here for nearly 2 years now, and we both chat to others when we are in the "Lobby" as you might in RL
When we room, that is of course, our private time together.
Hope this helps. Enjoy your game.
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So let me get this straight, I should say hello to everyone and respond to every little "hi" that comes my way, BUT at the same time don't chat with others while I am chatting to you.
RIGHT ::)
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Fraid so Momma... us girls have it easy!
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So let me get this straight, I should say hello to everyone and respond to every little "hi" that comes my way, BUT at the same time don't chat with others while I am chatting to you.
Yes!! Exactly!!
I know it's a difficult thing to be able to do that, but you ladies are always bragging about how well you can multi-task! So here's your chance to prove how well you can do it.
Answer every little "hi" or (Pafe's favorite) "kiss bb" that comes your way, while still maintaining a chat with ... well ... everyone!! Oh... and don't forget to get yourself all prettied up and please, please, don't burn the dinner.
(http://data1.whicdn.com/images/45955671/1355330715895102_large.jpg)
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So let me get this straight, I should say hello to everyone and respond to every little "hi" that comes my way, BUT at the same time don't chat with others while I am chatting to you.
Yes!! Exactly!!
I know it's a difficult thing to be able to do that, but you ladies are always bragging about how well you can multi-task! So here's your chance to prove how well you can do it.
Answer every little "hi" or (Pafe's favorite) "kiss bb" that comes your way, while still maintaining a chat with ... well ... everyone!! Oh... and don't forget to get yourself all prettied up and please, please, don't burn the dinner.
(http://data1.whicdn.com/images/45955671/1355330715895102_large.jpg)
Why does Pafe tell everyone she's kissing me ? ;D ;D
BB xxx
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- needing too long time to write.
Not everyone who take long to type is talking with others. for example me. I suck so bad at typing it take me for ever to say things right. I am also very self conscious of what i type and I ten to leave out words. I find it difficult to type what i really would like to say as I cant spell worth a dame, so sometime i have to retype what I am saying, because I cant spell a word right enough so you know what it is. With this it take me longer to say what i want. or I'm typing a lot out. lol
now I am sure I am not the only one who as this problem....well at least I hope I'm not the only one.
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a turn off for me is going Quit while in the room having fun. there only so much I can do by my self with out feed back or a response.
a little mmmm..
or little oohh..
or a screamy yes
would help a a lot other wise it gets boring fast...... some time.
one more thing if you go quit because its not fun then leave or say same thing. tell me your not having fun and thats why your quit.
look anything would be better then being silent.
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@kingdustin
It's no secret that I use Google Translate to chat with people in their first language. I think it leads to more fulfilling relationships. There is no reason why you can't have Word or some other app. open that would enable you to spellcheck (not that it worries me as I can usually figure it out, in fact I tell people sometimes to stop correcting themselves, because you wouldn't do that in spoken conversation and it can be more annoying than the spelling error).
ALt-tab to the other app., type your response in, have it correct your spelling, copy it (Ctrl-c), Alt-tab back to AChat and paste (Ctrl-v) it into the chat line. After a while it will become second nature. It does detract from the sex sometimes though, lol, but you can do it just for the chat-up process.
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Me it's very simple:
When I speak French is that I'm happy or not happy, choose your side 8)
My new signature in the game is: No answers = Busy or not interested
It's clear no?
It's very difficult for me to answer in the second when you have an ongoing conversation and 10 users in the chat, so I choose and try to answer at all.
But some are in a hurry to cum all over and don't wait ;D
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@Concerto
Ah yes i do the some what already. I use Google to help me spell words and stuff. but my main problem is it just take me longer to for my thoughts when I type. I don't know why but it happen a lot to me and frankly I hate it, as It slow down my response time a lot.
I do come across time where I am ask to voice my opinion on things or just question in general and it take me while to fulling understand or comprehend it all to form a real working thought. Its part my learning disability, witch I really hate to use as an excuse for why I respond slowly.
sadly it dose factor in.
now back to the spell check for something i find funny.
I have spelled words SO wrong that Google and other forms of spell check don't even know what I am typing but that is rare-ish. :P lol
it cracks me up some time on how bad i spell things.
all in all I think i respond in an timely manner sure it can be faster but hey I am doing the best I can. :)
there is other factor that get me to slow down my inability to know when someone is flirting and when to do it back. some time I take chance other time I just get so self conscious that I end up clamming up. (sigh)
if you haven't figured it out yet i am very shy guy. I don't come out my shell very much but I am working on it. I have gotten a lot better. then say when I was back in school. man, so many miss opportunities.... oh well cant dwell on the past.
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I did think of something else but it could be overkill (at least financially, I haven't looked so I don't have a clue how much it costs or even whether the technology is good enough) but what about speech recognition. So you say what you want to say and it creates the appropriate text.
After typing the above, I thought i would take a look. Having done so, my advice is forget it!
I downloaded Dictation Pro from http://download.cnet.com/Dictation-Pro/3000-7239_4-75445635.html, installed it and went through a lengthy training session (i.e. training it to know how I talk). I then started with "Hi" and it gave me a different thing each time and the "correct that" command didn't do anything so I did "add word" to add it and went back and said it again and still got different results. Lol, if it can't recognize "Hi", we're in trouble. It never even gave "high". Of course, I then tried "fuck", as you do, and with equally ludicrous results.
Perhaps a fee product would do better but I wouldn't want to take the risk without a month long trial.
Of course, I was using my built-in laptop microphone so perhaps some external mic would give better results.
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yes I have looked into those. I remember something called Dragon forgot who it was made by. I will have to look into getting one. thanks for reminding of this Concerto. there just so much going on right now in life little thing like this ten to slip my mind... well lots of thing seem to slip my mind lol anyway thanks again for the advice. it nice to get help once in while.
:-*
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Vulgarity, rudeness, ignorance and plain stupidity. So, most of people in chat turn me off right from their first words.
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Hello Nexe, thanks for posting. Please introduce yourself here and help us improving the game and also getting more members. As you also said, every member should know about forum and especially this section.
http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/board,22.0.html
@ Dustin: Welcome back
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This is an easy one for me to answer. A big turn off for me is having sooooooo many black avatars throw this line at me, "You want this Big Black Cock baby?"or "Come take this big black cock". Big black cock this, big black cock that, it is used so much that it is not only a turn off now but makes me throw up a bit in my mouth.
Then after I am nice and say "No thank you", or "Thank you I'm flattered but no", they will keep on and on with it. "Come on bitch you know you want this big black cock!", "Come on you wont know unless you try it!". And on and on, not everyone likes monster cock sorry!
This also goes for all guys that go on about how HUGE their cocks are and have those freaky pictures of cocks the size of ball bats. Too much is too much LOL. It is NOT SEXY! Besides ALL Achat guy avatars have the SAME SIZE COCK!
Ramble completed. . .
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Lol, Vaelene, I just happened to switch to a channel where this guy had a massive bbc, almost as wide as long, when I read your post. It sounded as if the girl was having trouble with it too, lol.
Anyone who mentions size to me (and of course it is always extremely big), I tell them how much smaller mine is and that I am probably of no interest to them then but it doesn't seem to matter, they still all seem to want it, lol.
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*deletes picture of a big black cock*
Foiled again. >:(
I have no turn-offs. If people persistently pm me, I troll them first. If they are able to laugh it off, I'll bed with them. If they are cool from the get go, I'll bed with them automatically. Win win in my book.
P.s Concerto is a fast poster. -.-''
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Lol, I'm not sure how to take that. Oh, I guess you mean it took you all of ten minutes to compose one paragraph? Lol!
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I have no turn-offs.
Really? What about this ?
(http://talentmovesllc.com/wp-admin/funny-toothless-pictures-7813.jpeg)
"Come here.. Giz a kiss "
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I have no turn-offs.
Really? What about this ?
(http://talentmovesllc.com/wp-admin/funny-toothless-pictures-7813.jpeg)
"Come here.. Giz a kiss "
LOL... .LOL ... LOL
Brandy.. did you see what i sent you? kissssssssss
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@ Concerto ~ >.< Seven minutes and some change, for your information Con'.
Time flies by when you're posting while watching Brooklyn 99 on Hulu. ;D
Really? What about this ?
(http://talentmovesllc.com/wp-admin/funny-toothless-pictures-7813.jpeg)
"Come here.. Giz a kiss "
*squirms in seat...trying my best not to run away*
(http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-6yG19XUUZuw/Uk5A9YZR4JI/AAAAAAAABQ0/qy2SFR_yTEE/s400/disgusted+gif+2.gif)
I stand corrected...though you've now provided me the perfect profile pic to ward off colds.
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This is an easy one for me to answer. A big turn off for me is having sooooooo many black avatars throw this line at me, "You want this Big Black Cock baby?"or "Come take this big black cock". Big black cock this, big black cock that, it is used so much that it is not only a turn off now but makes me throw up a bit in my mouth.
Then after I am nice and say "No thank you", or "Thank you I'm flattered but no", they will keep on and on with it. "Come on bitch you know you want this big black cock!", "Come on you wont know unless you try it!". And on and on, not everyone likes monster cock sorry!
This also goes for all guys that go on about how HUGE their cocks are and have those freaky pictures of cocks the size of ball bats. Too much is too much LOL. It is NOT SEXY! Besides ALL Achat guy avatars have the SAME SIZE COCK!
Ramble completed. . .
You could always respond that you are dating an Indian and really have no interest in downsizing...
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Lmao Bear nice.
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LOL bear! But you know...maybe some gay or shemale are turned on by older men... (who knows?), in this case this guy would be good to make what we call in french: une pipe de velour. (velvet blowjob) ;D
Concerning turn offs, Ive not been here for long, so I didn't experience a lot yet. I can juste tell this:
Icebreakers : starting only with "ready?" or cold invites. In case of colds, or I refuse directly also not giving any reason (should be clear enough), and if it's a free user, I try sthg like "Hi xxx, how about a little chat 1st?" I can understand that some ppl arriving on Achat think everyone is here just to wank off quickly, but if I get an answer and apologies, I could get in the mood to make a free user want more. After all, we've all been noobs, didn't we? And without prems inviting me a few times, I wouldn't be here now.
General Chatting Manner: I like to chat and RP, and quite open minded. Make me laugh or wake my interest and we could get along. For hours if you want. As long as we respect each other even if not ok on some matter or taste or whatever. We're all adults here (I presume), so let's treat each other as adults. Ah... and I hate Robots never saying anything once in action or leaving room without a good bye once done with themselves.
Language Used: I think swearing all the time only shows a lack of vocabulary and content... poor guy/girl. Feeling offended by an asshole insulting me for any reason is for me a waste of my energy. I can take a lot and mostly make fun out of it. I know what I'm worth. So ignore or troll back.
Fetish's That Repulse : scatophily, animals, incest, pregnancy. Though some ageplay can be fun, but I would not play or do someone younger than 17-18 in the game (and 10 years younger than me irl)
Weirdest Request: nothing to mension yet...
Unreasonable Requests : I'm ok to talk a bit about the real me if the conversation leads to it and we develop a feeling for each other. One can tell many things about hisself without revealing his identity. It may happen I ask for some detail, like "where in the USA do you live?" (just make me dream, I'm only a small european :) ), but i would never be offended if you don't want to answer any of my questions. And what's the use for a gamer to know another gamer's real name or adress or email or skype??? In many years of internet exchanges, i gave my email only to 5 ppl because we really built a bond after years of gaming together. So take it or leave it.
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People that brag of how much they have
Fake all they have
Secrets & Lies Behind them just so they get praise and Attiontian
self centered people.
Just be yourself .
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Rude messages on a profile.
Penis pictures on a profile.
Naked avatars on a profile.
Using inappropriate language at first contact. Yes it's a sex chat site but show respect.
Men who speak badly about their ex, especially when we have just met.
Men who think you are their possession after one sexual encounter... no matter how much fun it was.
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Lately...
Everything, but mostly the insincerity. I can take the direct approach " Hey you look hot an Im horny"
I'm flattered but the answer is still no, but at least he was sincere. (and later I might change my mind) ;D
The guy that says he wants to chat and then after 5 minutes either asks to room or- OR sends an invite without asking.
That guy can really go pound sand and leave me the fuck alone. (you know who you are)
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Same stuff but a different day.
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Lately...
Everything, but mostly the insincerity. I can take the direct approach " Hey you look hot an Im horny"
I'm flattered but the answer is still no, but at least he was sincere. (and later I might change my mind) ;D
The guy that says he wants to chat and then after 5 minutes either asks to room or- OR sends an invite without asking.
That guy can really go pound sand and leave me the fuck alone. (you know who you are)
Amen! Flirting often is but bantering behind masks until you trust the other one to show your real self, so be authentic, come as you are but preferably in a slightly more advanced form, some eloquence, wit and humor can make for a so much more attractive approach.
Neither do i have a high take on arrogance, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
Then again i'm probably the hardest flirt on here anyway ;D
PS : Good to see you again my smiley student :P
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Penis pictures on a profile.
women Pussy on profile.
Some Naked photos are ok they got some nice one's
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This morning I was at the beginning of a descent conversation with a guy. Things are going well, and I was pondering rooming.
Then he says "Are you one of those gift people?"
A switch in me turns off. Not really his fault, but still, I'm now turned off.
Not sure what vib me or my profile gave to make him ask that question, but needless to say I went back to bed.
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Something i will never understand is when someone is talking with you, and you go to room without say nothing.
Is not difficult to say, "sorry, i am busy" or just say, "brb" if someone invite you and you have to accept. or just see you.
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Returning to the game after a long absence is always interesting... but I do give allowances there
you may only have 10 seconds to say excuses... and too many chatters to say it to all.
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Bear..... I will respond to both your posts.....
Sometimes I have had maybe 6 friends on line at the same time and the person wanting to room with me was doing so because we had previously agreed the time.
It takes a long time to tell all 6 people that you are leaving them to room with someone else and not all are happy about it. ever!
I do say to the person about to room with me, "Ok, just gotta say bye to all my friends, be a minute", but they are expecting it to happen instantly and think that I shouldn't be talking to 6 people when I have an appointment with them.....
So how is the best way to deal with it?
I log on and wait
friends come on and chat. Maybe some of them would like to room me too, that's why they're friends on here, right?
Should I say "Sorry, can't chat, waiting for X to room me?" I have tried that, but I never mention the person's name... goes down like a lead balloon usually.
I wish there was a button with a saved message on it to blanket respond to everyone talking to me, something like "I'm sorry to break off the chat, catch you later, I have promised to room someone and they're getting impatient. xx Blue"
try typing that to 6 people at once!
I have even copied & pasted it once or twice
and then of course some of them respond and want answers....
So what I would say to you Bear, is practice tolerance. Maybe you weren't half-way through a sentence when the other person was invited and they thought you were busy chatting to someone else.
Returning to the game after a long absence...
I always log on now & then to check my messages even if I've no intention to play or just don't have time, the zzzzzzzz button gives me chance to do this, likewise sometimes I change my outfit without ever speaking to anyone the same way.
Put your apology in your profile. If people are looking for you, they will read it. Once you're happy and back playing properly, you can change it again to say what you really want.
Or if you think someone has been rude to you, you can always take them into your room & spank them soundly! ;D, :p, :p, :p!
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Perhaps my wording was not clear Blu' but that was my point,... have some tolerance in the fact thy disappear.
That said I think it also important that when engaging in conversation you have to be a bit direct.
If you have a date pending, state it at the beginning of conversation... that fact lets others know not to expect much and your disappearance is preplanned if you suddenly disappear. A quick "gtg" ... A good rule of thumb is never respond to new messages upon accepting an invite. NEVER!
Good friends will respect that fact, if they aren't...then they aren't really a friend.... Seriously...
Grilling you over who... really is that any of their business? As long as you have not been yanking on their heart and leading them on... it isn't.
If you establish that you are here to have meet folks, have a good time without drama upfront in a relationship you can certainly pinpoint the redflags of egocentric control freaks very easily. They are ones that think you are obligated to tell them who you play with. You don't need to defend your actions.
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A funny thing happened, I politely refused an invite when suddenly, out of the blue, he rounded on me. Apparently he'd been trying for 3 years!! News to me but there you go.
Obviously he made a massive impression if that was the case.
He actually EXPECTED me to room him, as though it was his RIGHT.
Tantrums to room wont work.
@ Blu & Bear - maybe its because I chat lots, but I usually manage to say in my convos to the inviter, give me a sec to end my convos and get a quick gtg or something similar fired off.
When my date comes on line, I usually tell the people, I'm chatting too. Sometimes with my regular chatters, I even ask them if they are on a date tonight, so the prep is already sorted.
There's always occasions I guess when the invite occurs quite quick. If that happens.. I have been known to let it time out.. and then explain "I haven't finished my gtg's yet, ok.. ready now."
If on the rare occasions, I do miss someone out, I send a message after the room to apologise.
It's just showing respect to the persons you are chatting to. I always presume, I am not the only chat. Manners cost nothing, yet are priceless.
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I'm giving up! I'm having a conversation for less than 5 minutes... "Hey let's go dance in a room."
NO! talk to me here!
"Why?"
*CLICK* closed window
You have NO idea how "In" you were getting, then you pushed it.
Will somebody take these "boys" Deer hunting and teach them about patience!
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and what Brandy has said is her norm,... and having been on either side of the situation (whoops sorry.. kiss and told)
I never found a delay annoying or insulting, it showed character of politeness and respect towards others.
Waiting 10 minutes may be annoying... ::)
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I'm worth it :) Mwahhhhhhhhh
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Well... i am agree with Brandy... all opinions are ok, but mine is as Brandy says, always can say to closer people brb, gtg, os just... see you later, i have to go.
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This morning I was at the beginning of a descent conversation with a guy. Things are going well, and I was pondering rooming.
Then he says "Are you one of those gift people?"
A switch in me turns off. Not really his fault, but still, I'm now turned off.
Not sure what vib me or my profile gave to make him ask that question, but needless to say I went back to bed.
if you didn't say "my premium is up" he was just probably throwing his baggage at you... probably had 5 girls before you demand gifts and decided he could vent at you. not a good pickup but sometimes you got noone but strangers right
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If you flip on someone who thinks they're having a good conversation with you they'll take offense. I guess its proper etiquette to end all conversations before leaving, but maybe "hi how are you" doesn't qualify. It also depends on your relationship with the person.
My biggest pet peeve a while ago was when girls would straight up flirt with me and even offer a dance or something then suddenly say "sorry so and so just showed up" or even didn't say that until after the fact. So i mean try to gauge the frustration factor
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Lately, guys pretending I know them and have roomed them before. Then not reading my profile and not accepting No.
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The way they come on to me as soon as I log on to the game
that come on to me like I am desperate for play ,,,
and I hate when they call me baby like if they know me ......
what ever happened to hello my name is....ext ext
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Silly and picky maybe. But I HATE being called bb.
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I hate being called babe! that sounds cold and with out meaning .
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I don't like being called "BB" either, but I have to wonder...
Although it would be a huge turnoff IRL, when I see it online, I wonder if maybe the guy is just playing a role, spitting out a line perhaps because he thinks I'm expecting it, that it's just part of the game?
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lol I get called BB all the time ..
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I mean, it's okay with someone I know, who's been a lover ;), but not someone just messaging me for the first time.
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lol I get called BB all the time ..
Even here you are called BB! ;D
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True lol
BB , HB , JC --- only Lover is the odd one out, but then... he is odd lol
Personally, I hate the begging after a polite refusal or ... after a polite refusal ... a whiney " but I'm new here, wont you show me?" I usually direct them to Robot Girl.
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I'm having a facepalm moment... it didn't hit me until just now about brandybee and bb... you can call me scarecrow today.
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Chuckling, just my dry sense of humour lol Now it puts a new meaning on it should the guy call it you in a room ... mmm sorry about that LMAO
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oooh, evil woman! (I like how your mind works!)
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Maron used to call me LP (loverpuma) lol... but we're off topic now. I always understand girls who don't like to called bb, also know a lot of guys think that's the right term for a girl.
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We'll just call you Luv'
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We'll just call you Luv'
I think we should calll him Elsie. If you can't work it out pm me and I'll explain :-) :p
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I just call him King
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I think Elsie is good ;-)