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Discussions about sex => Everything about sex and love => Topic started by: Lover on October 09, 2012, 01:16:46 PM
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Let me tell you about four members here, three i know and call good friends, which i talk to a lot. Her names are sm3369 (known in forum), andreacan (also introduced herself here) and chantall. The fourth member is shell69.
The last weeks we talked a lot about a male user called legman. He has been a lover to some of them and was nice in the beginning. With time passing they felt uncomfortable with him - they told me, at once they login he talked to them - they felt he didn't give them room to breath. After trying to explain this to him they found out, behind their back he is talking bad. The whole situation escalated and he abused and insulted them.
They asked me how to handle this and i suggested to put him on ignore. First they didn't want to, hoping to bring it to a good end. But it didn't work - it became worse.
I told them clearly that I don't wanna go on talking about him - if this all is true, he isn't worth to spend any second thinking and talking about him and i only help if they accept help. - By the way, they have sent me several copy of chats he did with them and i read all his attacks -
Finally they decided to put him on ignore list. This happened on Sunday.
Well, if you look at andreacan (important: with one "n" at the end) you read her banner: :)My wives Shell69 and Chantall mean everything to me :)
Today they noticed a new female user, called andreacann (two "n"). Her banner: :( my wives chantall and shell mean nothing to me :(
Also in her profile: <3 chantall shelly andrea steph (sm3369) :( were all depressive oldies
Her only male friend: legman
It seems he created this account (or asked someome to do) only to go on attacking them.
Though i told them they can be sure their true friends know better, you can imagine they feel upset and also sad. I suggested to send a message to support which andreacan did at once.
Independent of the result of this letter to support i wanna warn about legman. I hate this kind of behaviour, it's childish and silly.
I don't know what you think about but I don't want such members in the world of achat (though i know we can't avoid them).
Lover
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Few words to add, Lover....i don't know all of your friends, just Stephanie and i think she is a gorgeous girl.
Aaaanyway, this legman is the type of user you can stop with a ban from AChat and with no others way. It's not us who can choose if he had broke the TOS (he had.....IMO!), so i leave the decision to AChat team.
All i can say is this: girls, don't worried to put someone in ignore list, cause if you only think for a second to do it, that mean you had reach your limit against that person.
And at last......best wishes for all of them!
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Hello kinds peoples of the Dreamworld's Forum.
I really don know what to think about this "Legman" user and why he act this way
( Well be a predator and a troll is an old so called "fun" for many internet users ... that's as old as internet itself ...so )
I agree they will be always users like this one seem to be .
I just hope that the people he "harm" will get over this sad experience. ( And I am sure they will, I had few contact with Miss SM3369 and I think she is far able to deal such a troll ;) )
The best answer for sure is the Ignore list when insults comes in the chat.
But I also understand that,for at first the contact was pleasant, it is hard just to throw away all past relations ...
Anyway.
Thank you for the advice, but I am sure that, as long as he ( or she ) enjoy his little dumb play he will stay, just with another account.
Please accept my humbles regard
And all my thanks for the advice.
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I agree Lover. People or friends may at some point have disagreements and agree to disagree, make up, or decide to end their friendship once and for all .
There is no need for such nasty and spiteful behaviour. Taking it that one step further to try and hurt that person and that persons friends is just plain vindictive.
This person should apologise at once and move on . This kind of behaviour is not funny. It just serves to hurt people and prolong the situation, and does nothing but damage his own credibility.
I truly hope the situation is resolved soon to everyone's satisfaction. Good Luck to all.
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The fake Andreacan account is made by a user called Bebeta who is Legman's friend and she has been bothering them all for some time now and a lot of other people too. I know this because when you ignore someone on one of your accounts they get ignored on all of your other accounts too, its all connected so if I am on Bebeta's ignore list then I am automatically on all of her other accounts ignore list too and I am on Bebeta's ignore list so that is how I am 100% sure its her. Also its easy for AChat devs to know by just checking the IP of the accounts.
Sad really that there are people who only think about hurting others and being mean and total idiots for no reason at all. >:(
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Hey everyone,
I am also very good friends with the girls listed in the first post, and have also dealt with legman. He is very nice person when you first meet him, I will give him that. However, once you talk with him the first time...he simply won't give you any air to breath. As soon as he believes that you are not paying attention to him or ignoring him, he starts complaining and ranting. When we (the five of us) decided not to be associated with him anymore, he called several of my friends by very demeaning names and wholeheartedly disrespected them. He also uses devious and aggressive tactics in order to "get back at us," one of these tactics looks like the fake andreacan profile mentioned above. My friends on here mean the world to me, and it simply tears me apart to hear of what he has done in order to get revenge. He is simply not a person you can say no to...even though we have done so plenty of times. I would take caution before talking to him...he simply just doesn't treat others with respect.
Andrea
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uuuuhhhh......now i had read sweetvalley8, in my mind come the image of a guy i had meet here looong time ago and for a certain period i meet regulary (for all the new member here.....i'm a guy using a shemale account and after some times i had tell im this). He was nice and all, but whenhappend i ignore him a little (not cause he had done something wrong, but for other reason!) or if just i said a wrong word, he start to get mad, specialy when he see i stay in room with Marla (my wife here) even for all the night. He had start a sort of "war" with her, calling her friend, writing certain things on his profile about her....now i wonder if they are the same!
Now, after some months, he never had try to contact me again and same for her "real" wife (i really think he was him with another account probably....they act so similar!) and i can swear it's a reliefe!
why those crazy people want to ruin a nice experience!? gosh......
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Thank you for posting this Lover :)
As a close friend to the girls mentioned in the inital thread, and a spouse to two of the girls :), I feel a measure of personal responsibility in this matter. Of all of us mentioned, I was the first one to meet him & become one of his lovers. Almost immiediately afterward, he searched through my lists like a vulture & began to meet all of those close to me. One of them, saw through him immiediately and cut him off right there. He also has a habit of asking people to meet him in real life, or exchange other personal information such as skype, yahoo messenger, facebook, cell phone numbers, email addresses, etc. If he was told that we didn't want to give out prsonal information, his demeanor would change, & he'd become very curt & rude >:(. My biggest issue with him was that he'd be there, in my face, the second I'd log on to Achat. My client wouldn't even be finished loading yet, & there he'd be, with a barrage of messages. If I'd politely tell him I was waiting for someone, or that I just wanted to chat with friends that were on, he'd become aggressive and persistant on why I should room with him. If I was in a room, when I would come out, there he was, asking me who I was with. This went on almost every day for the whole Summer until I finally had enough >:(. It was at this point I decided to cut him off for good, something I should have done much sooner. Last year, I had a similar problem with another male member who was my spouse at that time, but it wasn't to this extent. He never had another avi made up to try to get back at anybody. I regret that this had to come to this, but there simply was no other way but to cut him off. And it's not limited to us five mentioned in this thread. Some of my other friends have come to me describing similar experiences with legman. He seems to like to go for girls or shemales with pretty avatars. Those of you reading this, whether you know me, or any of the other girls mentioned, please be careful of him. Clearly, he has an agenda here, & it isn't one I care to be a part of >:(.
:) Finally, I give a shoutout to my Achat family, which are all of the girls mentioned by Lover in the initial thread, plus sweetvalley8 :). You guys are the greatest & I love you all :). Together, we will get through this. I will not let a few bad apples spoil my enjoyment of the game, & the hapiness & love I feel from you guys, my Achat family. I love you all :).
Kisses,
Stephanie
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uuuuhhhh......now i had read sweetvalley8, in my mind come the image of a guy i had meet here looong time ago and for a certain period i meet regulary (for all the new member here.....i'm a guy using a shemale account and after some times i had tell im this). He was nice and all, but whenhappend i ignore him a little (not cause he had done something wrong, but for other reason!) or if just i said a wrong word, he start to get mad, specialy when he see i stay in room with Marla (my wife here) even for all the night. He had start a sort of "war" with her, calling her friend, writing certain things on his profile about her....now i wonder if they are the same!
Now, after some months, he never had try to contact me again and same for her "real" wife (i really think he was him with another account probably....they act so similar!) and i can swear it's a reliefe!
why those crazy people want to ruin a nice experience!? gosh......
Hello hentaiboy,
I think I know EXACTLY who you are speaking of. If so, that is the person who was my spouse as well last year. And if so, yes, he did have two avatars. But I saw right through that because he wasn't very creative & spoke the same way & same mannerisms with both of them ;D.
Kisses,
Stephanie
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Well done Stephanie......when things begin to get worst, cut them is the only right thing to do.
And about that man.....i know another girl who had problem with him, so at last there can be more. Too bad those people are ruining others experience.....but we can avoid them, when we recognize how they really are!
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'Lover' could you pls tell me what Andreacan got to do with legman
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'Lover' could you pls tell me what Andreacan got to do with legman
Thank you for asking. I can answer this one for you easily...
Actually, as far as I'm concerned, I have nothing to do with him. If only he would have no effort to harrass me and my friends, all would be wonderful.
andrea
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be carrefull when you read :) , its not andreacan ( 1 n ) who is related to legman but andreacann ( 2 n )
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My thanks, Lover and big hugs to Stephanie *HUGZ*
I think I know all of the affected and even if they aren't all on my friends list they are all friends to me.
I think I have spoken to Legman a few times, but never roomed with him and now never will and whilst I will talk to andreacan I shall certainly watch out for he a-hole plagiarising her name!
It's nice to know that there is a community here on Achat that will look out for each other. Let's keep it that way.
xxx
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'Andreacan' the reason i ask this is because if you read 'SLUT' reply
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OK, everyone I have set by trying to just let all of this pass. However even with the out pour of love & support shown here it still continues. Why should anyone have to be subjected to this. Ther e are so many people here & should be someone for everyone. Why should a person have to be like they are being stalked. I have been on Achat for almost a year & have built some real friendships here & feel like people are being attacked just because they are my friend. This startes making it personnal for me no matter how hard I try to just let it pass. I am a big girl & can take care of myself quite well, but it seems that all of the attaks have been on my closest & dearest friends, however I rarely even get a message from the people that have seemed to declare war against me. So I guess that I must say it, if you have a problem please with me then come to me about it & I will be more than happy to explain why I don't care to interact with you anymore. My friends & lovers have all been attacked & all because I have made a decision that you are not the kind of person that I want to be assciated with. Please growup & just go find someone that does like you. They are out there if you would spent as much time looking for them as you do harrassing people you might find them.
Also want to thank everyone for their support. It is because of you that Achat is such a wonderful place.
Hugggggggggs & Kisssssssssses
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Hi ya Shell69. Welcome to Forum. I hope you read other topics here and join in the fun and add your ideas and views. That goes for all your friends too.
I'm sorry your introduction here is under such sad circumstances.
I dont know this guy ,that seems to be causing all of you so much trouble but his continued behaviour to each of you is harrassment. I urge all of you, if you feel, this person cannot be reasoned with and you feel that he has now crossed the line of reasonable behaviour, to report him to "Support" and that includes any other accounts/ avatars that carry on the harrassment
Achat will then be notified of his behaviour and deal with him accordingly.
People should not be allowed to treat you this way and should know that there are consequences for such bad behaviour. Hopefully the Achat gods will close down all the troublesome accounts to discourage this silliness & warn others that this is not acceptable behaviour here.
Good Luck to all. Its good to see you are all supporting each other.
Then when you are done, come have some free celebratory drinks in the AB&G, its fun and frolics there, and first drinks are on the house.
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I'm sorry to see whats going on with Shell69. Who I know by just chatting to her. I think by putting Legman on ignore list is just pushing the problem on to some other girl that he meets, I think he should be report
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Let me tell you about four members here, three i know and call good friends, which i talk to a lot. Her names are sm3369 (known in forum), andreacan (also introduced herself here) and chantall. The fourth member is shell69.
The last weeks we talked a lot about a male user called legman. He has been a lover to some of them and was nice in the beginning. With time passing they felt uncomfortable with him - they told me, at once they login he talked to them - they felt he didn't give them room to breath. After trying to explain this to him they found out, behind their back he is talking bad. The whole situation escalated and he abused and insulted them.
They asked me how to handle this and i suggested to put him on ignore. First they didn't want to, hoping to bring it to a good end. But it didn't work - it became worse.
I told them clearly that I don't wanna go on talking about him - if this all is true, he isn't worth to spend any second thinking and talking about him and i only help if they accept help. - By the way, they have sent me several copy of chats he did with them and i read all his attacks -
Finally they decided to put him on ignore list. This happened on Sunday.
Well, if you look at andreacan (important: with one "n" at the end) you read her banner: :)My wives Shell69 and Chantall mean everything to me :)
Today they noticed a new female user, called andreacann (two "n"). Her banner: :( my wives chantall and shell mean nothing to me :(
Also in her profile: <3 chantall shelly andrea steph (sm3369) :( were all depressive oldies
Her only male friend: legman
It seems he created this account (or asked someome to do) only to go on attacking them.
Though i told them they can be sure their true friends know better, you can imagine they feel upset and also sad. I suggested to send a message to support which andreacan did at once.
Independent of the result of this letter to support i wanna warn about legman. I hate this kind of behaviour, it's childish and silly.
I don't know what you think about but I don't want such members in the world of achat (though i know we can't avoid them).Lover
The type of behavior exhibited by whomever this new female user "andreacann" is is totally despicable. As Slut had mentioned in her reply, I too have a good idea of who this female user is. Furthermore, even more disturbing is that this "andreacann" user has a followowing of friends on her lists, which tell me that these members condone & thrive on this type of childish behavior. Some of these members are also friends & lovers of other friends of mine. When I first joined here over a year ago, the requirement was that one would have to be an adult, and that should include acting like one. Making up phnney avatars to mock other members & to support this type of action is not only immature, but unethical. In ways, it's kind of cyberbullying. :'(. I feel that if there are those of you than can't behave as adults, and conduct yourselve's appropriately, you shouldn't have the right to be here. >:( Now I may lose a few friends over what I have just spoken, but I stand by my remarks. I have no room for this type of b.s. that's going on. And I do sincerely thank those good members of the Achat community that support us through this ordeal. I feel that this too will pass.
Kisses & Thanks for letting me share my views,
Stephanie
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It is always disappointing when bullies are allowed to continue their activities unfettered.
This is the only mmporg that I play but I am aware of others and at least one of them vets the user names and will not allow just anything to be used.
I am also surprised at how easy it is to create a new free character here. At the least, it makes a mockery of the statistic for number of users.
I hope that this is (and future incidents are) resolved quickly so that decent people can play without having to be concerned about potential unwanted bullying and abuse.
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It really is sad that some act this way on AChat... isn't this behaviour called Possessive Personality Disorder? Disturbing other users this way feels like it should earn him a ban, at least a ban for a few days or something.
I do hope all of you girls are rid of this guy now.
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I have been disturbed this way by other users on Achat too.
For me its just an invitation to take the approach that the person is no longer worth talking to. A person that has to abuse others in that circumstance just deserves what they end up getting. Nothing/Noone/Alone.
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Hi every one.
My heart Gos out to you all.I feel for those who have been effected by him. As I know Legman as well. He as tried to the same with me when i was using my TS avatar. he was very pushy and gets aggressive quick. In the end I Ignored him. luckily at the time I had very few friends. he did not seek out revenge.
someone like this should have IP banned from the game. as it clearly shown he does this a lot. Is a shame that Achat does not have a better way of getting such important info out to the community. they need a way of send out message to all player that this guy is curl and should not be trusted. this should be done when and if someone get out of line while playing.
To let this man move about free with out punishment I find this to very irresponsible on the Dev-team or who ever monitor the game.
I know for sure such behavior is not accepted in any other games so i see no reason why it be accepted here.
Once again Stephanie (SM3369) and to all your friends, I am sorry and I feel for you and hope this never happens again.