Elio_. Hello and Goodbye. Homophobia and toxic heternormativity

[Corina_33]

Welcome in Achat Elio. About your experience…you have to get used to it because there are a lot of bad people here. And racists and homophobes..and..and..and.. Tc of you and just ignore them ! Good luck !

[Booboofinger]

Hey Elio, as a straight male, I have to say you are completely right, and I apologize for all the jerks you met around here.

This should not be a place to pass judgment on anyone. If you are not into it, say no thanks and walk away.  I have no idea what the gay perspective is here, but as a male, and someone who is very much into D/s I felt some too.

Noting to the degree you have, but the lesson is still the same. People forget there other human being behind the avatars here. It does not surprise me because people sometimes forget there is humanity behind everyone we meet in the real world too.

I know it sounds cliché, and probably brings very little comfort but just know it's them, not you.

[Tift]

Dear Elio,

do not let the prejudices of a couple of the stupid people get you down or drive you away from achat so easily.  There are a lot of them about but the overwhelming majority of people on here are decent people

You must draw strength from ignoring the minority of prejudiced morons and be proud of who you are.  I have been called nigger, paki and chocco all because I have a darker skin colour.  It is hurtful but it shows, like the homophobes, how small-minded, pathetic and ignorant those people are.  They are everywhere just do not let the idiots grind you down, be yourself and stay where you are.

with a hug from Tift

[Soniaslut]

Elio.

It's always sad to read posts like yours…in my 8 plus years at Achat I've read far too many of them.
I hope that some of the comments posted previously may give you a change of heart, but don't blame you in the slightest if you do decide to leave.
Just remember…it's you that is leaving, not small-minded, big-mouthed bigots that are driving you away.

Tycho, I'm very surprised you didn't step in to quell this before it got out of hand. I thought I knew you better. Perhaps not.

Elio, all I can say is that Achat is and always has been biased towards heterosexual males. Heterosexuality in general, in fact.
This is apparent everywhere, you don't even have to look hard to find it.
This in my opinion encourages certain attitudes and behaviours towards anyone not able to be pigeonholed neatly into the desired “norm” to be seen as acceptable by some fools.
It isn't. Everyone understands that.
Unfortunately some people take advantage of the bias and lack of any proper moderating presence as licence to behave in a manner that is, in reality and should be here, inadmissable.
There are far too many of these type of people here at Achat and they ruin the game not only for other members but also bring shame on the game as a whole.

All I can say is Ignore the narrow-minded, sexist/racist, loud-mouthed cretins that choose to demonstrate their intolerance and ignorance in such a way and stick to the good people here, of whom there are many.
(I'm not included in the above statement, by the way…I'm well-known for ripping the piss out of people…though at least mine is based on humour, not hatred).

Maybe you'll change your mind, Elio, and Ignore ignorant cunts who display attitudes that are socially and morally unacceptable.
I hope you do.

If you decide to quit…may the road rise up to meet you.
Be safe and take care.

xx00xx

[Jordan1]

Hi  Elio_

The above have said it all already. Hope you stay friend.

Jordan.

[JessiCapri]

Hi Elio.

Not sure you are still around but just in case I am going to add my thoughts to what has already been said.

I apologize first off for not seeing and replying sooner.  Your post was brought to my attention by my spouse. No matter. I have read it now.

As a straight female I have not experienced any of what you describe but I have witnessed it.  You would think that on a sex site people would be more accepting of the fact that those with a wide range of interests and kinks would also find their way to such a site.  It is a great way to experiment and learn. 

As a straight submissive to my loving Dominate spouse I have been laughed at for not being bi or gay.  Some even get angry with me because I am not.  Some accuse me of not being so out of homophobia.  I am far from homophobic and it frustrates me being called such things but the moment I try to defend myself it sounds like every other homophobic idiot….so I just let them have their predisposed opinions of me.  They matter little.  They are unaware of the facts that led me to the point of knowing, with strong certainty, that I am most certainly straight.  Whatever that term means now lol

So that is my advice to you.  Let them think what they want.  Hit the ignore button on those you find toxic to your virtual fantasy life and move on.  They matter little.  It may anger them that you are able to enjoy your life without them but that is their issue not yours.  It does not make you small minded it only shows that you do not welcome their brand of toxic into your circle.  Build your life here as you see fit and surround yourself with those that make you smile and/or squirm.

My spouse has already extended an invitation to join us in Winter and I second that invite.

Smiles and Hugs,
Jessi

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