Interesting Interaction i had with a person on Achat.

[Bear]

Names should never be dragged thru the mud here IMO..

He over reacted kiten'.

When invites are sent… and expire they are messaged as a rejection… but the why's is not important if you ask for the re-invite.
I never presume I am the one and only in chat…and my friends shouldn't either.

[hentaiboy69]

What can i say…….this person have to drink some tisana to calm his nervs! i don't think u have done something wrong, kitten, miss an invite can happend!
the point is why he go out of controll for this…..is he thinking u are at his feet!? peoples sometimes are crazy!

[kittenlepurr]

Names should never be dragged thru the mud here IMO..

He over reacted kiten'.

When invites are sent… and expire they are messaged as a rejection… but the why's is not important if you ask for the re-invite.
I never presume I am the one and only in chat…and my friends shouldn't either.

Its why i didnt put his name up he could be having a bad night etc. Why penalise him for that. I didnt say to him for a re-invite i implied it more then straight say it.  I never assume i am when i am chatting.

What can i say…….this person have to drink some tisana to calm his nervs! i don't think u have done something wrong, kitten, miss an invite can happend!
the point is why he go out of controll for this…..is he thinking u are at his feet!? peoples sometimes are crazy!

Ty Hentai boy that is a good question but its really just confusing and silly from my perspective.

[Adera]

Did the invite just come from the blue? If so he can't expect you to accept it at all.

He's asking for a huge commitment and then getting overly sensitive about it when your telling him the truth… he's taking it way too serious.

I would have a hard time wanting to play with such a partner again, seems like far to much drama and whining.

When I'm online I like chatting to my friends so if there's many online I do and if it's slow paced I will surf the web at the same time, there's no way I'm going to sit idly for a minute or two waiting for an answer.

[hentaiboy69]

When I'm online I like chatting to my friends so if there's many online I do and if it's slow paced I will surf the web at the same time, there's no way I'm going to sit idly for a minute or two waiting for an answer.

well, Adera, u can be surprise about a boy i know here….sometimes he wait for me for more then an hour……well, he tell this.

[Adera]

Have happened to me as well, ignored him and he came after me with a female account so I had to ignore that as well.

[Bear]

Likewise Adera … when things are slow I do the same… and I agree it sounds as if the situation might have evolved into a drama filled relationship.

Guess you can be thankful Kitten it reared its ugly head at an early stage.

During the day I sometimes pop in when waiting for email responses, or on a short break. Phone calls or visitors are a given…

I you need a moment… proper etiquette would be to let your partner know…. even if the invite is on the screen… then ask for the resend. His behavior should be of understanding … and patience to for the moment to be right.

*takes off his “dear Abby” wig.*

[kittenlepurr]

Did the invite just come from the blue? If so he can't expect you to accept it at all.

He's asking for a huge commitment and then getting overly sensitive about it when your telling him the truth… he's taking it way too serious.

I would have a hard time wanting to play with such a partner again, seems like far to much drama and whining.

When I'm online I like chatting to my friends so if there's many online I do and if it's slow paced I will surf the web at the same time, there's no way I'm going to sit idly for a minute or two waiting for an answer.

yes it did like i said i didnt prompt the invite so it did come out of the blue. I tend to chant to my friends as well.

its really a moot point now i do not forsee a time where i will ever talk to him again anyway.

[TightFit74]

Well, everything that needed to be said, was said already. I can only get in queue with Bear, Adera and Hentaiboy. I think your friend over reacted.

I must say that for some people it is easier to get fixated on one person and having a good time once can mean they focus on that person completely.
Dealing with such an infatuation isn't easy as I have found out myself. An invite out of the blue from a friend,  is still an invite without consent and one I wouldn't accept either.
I think you have been clear in your intentions and expectations towards this person and it would have been nice if he accept4ed your explanation and left it at that, instead of feeling hurt about it.
I too have several other applications open when I am online, closing when someone gets my attention, familiar or new.. In the end, almost noone here talks to one person only. Almost everyone has more friends they talk to. Sometimes it is a slow night (day, morning, evening), sometimes too many to give the attention to that they deserve. That should be a given and therefor accepted. If someone can't handle that, they should consider why they are online here.

[Adera]

I think he should've asked you before sending an invite like that it's the polite thing to do.

It could be only an infatuation though to me it's bordering to S&M, it's as if he wants a submissive girl who is at his beck and call at all the time and giving him undivided attention. Imo a master/mistress in such an relationship should be strong, dependable and calm… not sensitive and whiny.

[Unhealer]

I have a really hard time with them. All of the mistresses on here speak broken english whether its their first language or not. I feel like im in the dominant position when I have linguistic superiority.

[Adera]

If I start to feel superior mentally to a dom the dom will cease to be a true master/mistress for me anymore, he/she doesn't have to be smarter than me, it's more a thing of class, calm, articulation and maybe some wit.

I'm not saying I'm overly picky but some that claim to be mistresses I would have trouble treating the way they'd like to be treated.

I know from Janine that BDSM involves lots but some parts of it I find to crude or rowdy to involve well defined dom and sub roles and when it looses what I see as a dom it's hard to think of it as real BDSM.

[Unhealer]

meh i made a 30some year old chick at work have an emotional breakdown because she was so out of her league, she seems like a dominant person too. when I dont even have to try its a little pathetic

[TightFit74]

Within the subject of the thread, imho people should always hold certain aspects of conduct in mind at all times.
“Be treated as you like to be treated yourself” which to me is the simplest but most applicable rule there is. The second should be “Do as you please as long as you don't bother anyone else with it”.

The last rule has worked wonders for Holland over the past 4-5 centuries and it is an adagium that I hold onto myself. Show some respect, treat the one on the other side of the conversation as a friend, a person, a human. Instead of a dick or cunt on legs (excuse my language).

[kittenlepurr]

best way to deal with people on her in some cases is to remember you are playing on a game. friendships that organically build are good but the ones that people assume on one side are more because they have no idea of the concept.

personally i am friendly to everyone. When people are rude to me either ignore or dont tolerate it.

In this situation i descibed it was a mix of misinterpretation and being at least on oneside unreasonable.
but the point remains.

The person related to this has since apologised

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