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Kaileen... I love you. I love you and I want to gay marry you. 

Seriously though I've been using ideas very similar to yours for cybersex ever since I learned of the concept.

Though I will say the only "code" I tend to use is ** for actions, and even that's primarily if I'm mixing words and actions. In my experience once the connection is found and that chemistry is flowing you get that if your partner is typing "OMG, OMG So GOOODDDDD." that's obviously words, and "My eyes are smiling at you brightly as I pull my fingers out of you and keep that eye contact as I lick them clean." would obviously be an action.

Just like "BRB gotta wash my hands." Is going to be a requirement not to ruin ones keyboard.

Thanks for the compliments sweetie *hugs*.

As for the codes I think it's ok to use whatever you feel comfortable with. As long as you are aware of the fact that you are balancing different personas (avatar and real life) and don't get them mixed up to the point where it gets distracting or confusing. The codes are more of a side-note to the fact that intimate cybersex is based on imagery that you have to convey with words rather than actual images. You need to describe all the subtle movements of your hands, your expression, your feelings. If the codes help you do this then I recommend you use them, if you can manage fine without I think that's just as swell...

Actually, I just made a little test in regards to the email address. I checked in the memberslist for the forum and looked myself up, there I could see that my email was available despite hiding it from public view in the forum settings. I toggeled the setting and checked again, no change. I don't know if others can see my mail (doesn't really matter much as it's not a mail address I use for anything important) but from what I can tell my mail is public even if I have set it to be hidden in the profile settings. Is this a bug?

I tend to be noisy during sex, I know not all women are. Some men don't like women to use words during sex either.  Perhaps when girls make the files they should keep it to moaning?  I'm American, I suppose my accent might turn some off....but others it'd have the opposite effect. hehe! 

Moaning with an American accent, now that'd be a thing to behold   I wonder if we can get moaning from all the corners of the world, just to fit all the nationalities we might have in AChat

Anyways, I think this is a great thing and I'll see if I can dig up a microphone somewhere and fake a few moans (I don't moan much myself while having sex)

I know a lot of people get off on just playing around with the different poses, however, I'm not one of these. Therefore I would like to offer a few friendly pointers that might help make your experience more exciting while making love in a virtual world.

A few facts:

• While having sex in a virtual world you do not get the physical touch from your partner, so in order to enhance your experience you need to replace this with emotions and imagery.
• The virtual world is never going to offer you all the poses and positions you would like to try. To achieve the desired effect you will have to "proxy" it, meaning you select the closest match and describe the rest.
• In difference to real life, where you are present at the actual act of having sex, having cybersex means you try to experience things through an avatar while sitting in front of your computer. Hence you need to care for your pleasure in real life while you provide sufficient stimuli for your partner through typing. This can be quite difficult, but I'll try to offer some advice later on.

Descriptive sex:
There are, as far as I know, two types of descriptive sex: where you describe your feelings and actions in real life, and where you describe the feelings and actions of your avatar. I usually use code to mix the two in order to provide as much stimuli to my partner as I can.

The codes I use are the following:

• Actions or feelings that my avatar does are proceeded with a "*" sign. Example: *I move closer to you, rest my head on your shoulder, and sigh happily*.  Example 2: *My face twists in agony as you twist my nipples*
• Dialogue is used with no proceeding sign, although exceptions may need to be made during roleplay. If a roleplaying session has started and I'm started to get emerged in the story I find it helpful to simply put out of character dialogue within brackets to make it clear to my partner that it is not a thing my avatar is telling him/her. Example: (give me a moment, I'll be right back)
• Actions and feelings that I do in real life are within brackets: ( ). Example: (Give me a moment while I undress). Example 2: (I am going to masturbate for a while so I might not type for a bit). Example 3: (Orgasm, fingers shaking, sticky, can't type... cleaning)

Roleplaying:
I find virtual sex to be a lot better, and easier, if I'm immersed in a role. I might decide with my partner beforehand on a story that we are playing out, we might decide upon the roles and a short background story. Some of the great sessions I've had have been quite elaborate and lasted for several 4 hour sessions (yes, roleplaying sessions can get quite long). What I find makes virtual sex easier through roleplaying is that you have things to talk about, and things to describe, during sex if you play a role.

Example 1: I've played a sweet and innocent girl who lost her diary. The diary was picked up by a pervert who used it to blackmail me into becoming his sex slave. That's all the details we needed to get started, and then the story just evolved from there. (For those interested: he blackmailed me into having sex with him once, he filmed it, sent the video to my character's boyfriend who then left me but not before giving the video to my parents who then kicked me out. Thus forcing me to seek shelter elsewhere, but without other contacts I ended up living as a sex slave with the guy who blackmailed me in the first place)

Example 2: I've played very simple roles too. One started out with me having a broken sandal, and a guy on the street offered to fix the strap in his apartment. Once there he started to seduce me. What was interesting here was that I could talk about how I was on my way to school, how sweet he was for fixing the sandal, and how I wanted to reward him for his kindness. We automatically had things to talk about, and my partner could describe his apartment and how he seduced me based on what he knew about my character.

You do not have to create long background stories (although I've been with people who've written several pages in preparation for a session with me). Just having a scene, a role, and describing what you say and so goes a long way to achieve immersion.

Descriptive Roleplaying Sex:
It's very difficult to convey emotions and provide stimuli to a stranger. What descriptive roleplaying gives you is immersion, which helps put a person in a certain mindset. It is a lot easier to relate to a fictive role than an actual person, and I believe it is because we base our fictive roles on known concepts. These concepts can help you with dialogue, can help you describe what you do, they can cause you to feel certain things you otherwise wouldn't feel, and they can give you a very powerful orgasm (the best orgasm I ever had was actually during cybersex and not during real sex).

Example:
Woman: *I knock on the door* Hello? You called me and said you found my diary
Man: Yah, come on in *looks at the lovely young girl as she enters and offers a sly grin*
Man: I decided I want a reward for handing it over
Woman: r..reward? Uhm, I... I suppose I could give you *looks in my wallet for some money*
Man: No, not that kind of reward *moves closer and grabs hold of the girl's arm*
Woman: *chocked* Hey, let go of me!

... I think you get the picture, gonna spare you the rest of the story as I'm sure not everyone want to read about a girl being blackmailed into becoming a sex slave. I happen to like it though... These dialogues can continue into the sex act, or you could let your characters turn silent and just describe what you do, how you touch your partner, how you tease, etc. Or, you could mix dialogue with descriptions, whatever you feel comfortable with.

Pleasing yourself and your partner:
It is very important to me that I manage to please my partner, and that I manage to please myself. I never have cybersex unless I intend to actually get a real life orgasm. So, when do you find the time to masturbate etc. while typing so much? I suppose that's where the time aspect comes in. If you just want a quick orgasm you might as well watch porn.

The whole point with cybersex is the buildup, or at least that's what I think. During the whole buildup, during the roleplay, you might get a few opportunities to masturbate, but you don't really need that much time once you get into it. Once you're into the act of having sex I'm sure you'll be so turned on that you only require a minute or two to climax. And for that amount of time you can just tell your partner to keep going while you masturbate.

Of course men have the advantage of being able to please themselves without getting their hands messy (until it's over that is). Women, like me, might not be so lucky as my fingers tend to get sticky, however, I can use a vibrator which is a bonus. Just be respectful of each other and allow your partner enough time to reach climax. After all, it's supposed to be a pleasurable experience for both, right?

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I hope you have enjoyed this little guide to cybersex, and please feel free to comment. I don't claim to have all the answers, I just wanted to share some of my own experiences...

Concrete suggestions:

Create 10 chat rooms. Show the rooms in a list and show how many people are currently in a room. People can then choose to join a chat room if they wish, or change to another if they don't like the current conversation. Try it and see where it goes, perhaps people like it as is, or maybe they will come with topic suggestions for different rooms.

Let every private message show up as a separate tab in the chat window. Make the chat window detachable so you can resize it and thus fit more text into it. Make it so you can change between different private chats by pressing the tab button.

Make the chat window customizable. Apart from making it detachable for resizing purposes I think you should be able to change the transparency of the background and the size of the text. That way you can select how readable you want your text to be (some may prefer small text on black background, others like a transparent background to see the rest of the application etc.)

Make it possible for a person to invite a number of friends from their relations list (friends, lovers, spouse, etc.) to a chat group. That should create an entirely new chat room separate from the 10 generic chat rooms already available. That way a group of people can isolate themselves from spammers and annoying people if they wish. I forsee people going to the generic chat rooms to make friends, and then going to a private chat room with a number of these friends later to continue a fun and entertaining discussion without interruptions.

Nickname: Kaileen
Gender: Female
Age: 29
Nationality: Swedish
Occupation:
Work environment inspector/engineer (I do everything from inspecting working conditions to acting as a proxy in sensitive negotiations and disputes)

Interests:
I'm quite the nerd girl. I know my way around a computer (and I even know a bit of programming). I actually roleplay in real life (pen, paper, a few friends, a game master, character sheet, dice...). I like watching movies and series, I like exercising (running, swimming, volleyball). If you get me started I can talk nerd stuff for hours.

Personality:
I'm a sweet and caring woman who has a slight problem with lack of self confidence. I tend to put the needs of others before my own, but that also makes me a great person to confide in.

I like to chat a lot, though I find the AChat system to be a terrible chat client as there is no group chat, and there is no quick way to switch between private conversations (I'd like different chat tabs that I can switch between by clicking the tab button or something similar).

I love sex (that's what you all want to hear right?). Since I broke up with my boyfriend a while back I haven't been having sex nearly as much as I want to (maybe once per month) so I've been looking for alternatives (virtual worlds, porn, various sex toys) to keep me going between the real world encounters.

I'm a submissive woman, though I have never actually tried it in real life (been having problems finding a dominating person that I feel I can trust with my body). I love the idea of being used, bound, hurt, forced, abused... I even have the occational wet dream about being gang-raped though I know I would never want that to happen to me in real life. But, I wouldn't mind it happening in a virtual world. In fact, I think it'd be a great experience. I would even want to try being owned in a virtual world, maybe be a sex slave for a while. With the right master I think it could be great fun.

Cybersex personality
I like descriptive roleplaying sex. That is, I like to set up a scenario, take on a role (preferably with a short background story), and then act it out while describing the things I do and feel. I like to toss in a few real life things as well, such as what I'm doing in real life, what I'm feeling, etc. Though that is purely for turning my partner on as I know a lot of people wish to know when I am having a real life orgasm. I like cuddling, pillow talk, and giving my partner a real life orgasm. I never have sex unless I intend to have a real life orgasm myself.

I never play a dominant woman. I can be both a regular romantic woman or a submissive woman though. If I'm your submissive woman for the day, then there are really few limitations. I like it quite rough, so please do with me as you please.

Opinion about AChat
I just joined yesterday, and had my first non buggy session today. I think AChat has potential but it's not quite there yet. I don't intend to invest any money into AChat until I see some improvements with the chat. I want to be able to switch between different private chats in a simple way, and I'd like to have chat rooms where I can chat to several people at once. I'd also like to see some BDSM positions, though I can live without those for a while.

Not interested at all.

I realize "to each his own" but you people are into some gruesome stuff.

I realize this is not for all. However, I find it a lot safer in a virtual place than in real life so if there is ever a place to experiment with it I think it should be here, no?

I agree. I want to be tied up, humiliated, whipped, used and abused... I'm a submissive girl with no relation to a dominant person in real life, so in order to be dominated I need to come to virtual places like this. Would be nice if this place actually supported my fantasy though