Blu… an invite sent without on assumption is rude in my book. Everyone should ask… not just presume. Telling the invitor.. “just a sec” is justified…. and if that pisses them off… well if you want to continue play with one like that , that's your decision… anyone… ANYONE… knows they are not the only one probably talking to a lady… courtesy is understanding she has friends… with whom she may wish to excuse herself.
as to those pushing the conversation… really you owe them only the goodbye…. the rest none of their business…. goes back to the issue of understanding and courtesy.
*puffs*… sorry.. I think that its a sore spot with me too, like most guys. I cannot accept that…I know when conversation has withered… well it's a pretty good sign of your importance and value to the other in that moment. I hate to admit it… but have been guilty of this myself….and understand how it made a dear friend feel… am still apologizing to her over that…
Taking that brief moment to state “gtg”…” gtf… ” or “dates here bye” with a “ttyl” is more than enough and takes little effort…puts them on notice…
I like to chat.. the presumption that I am going to just jump into bed immediately is a turn off… though… Mr. Bear sometimes go for it with a newbie… being angry that I decline…a bigger issue. I am a hard one to seduce… and like to know the expectations ahead of time… before rooming. If they wish to room to chat, that is a point I am willing to consider… if nothing else is going on.
Unlike the others… I much rather have the “Hello”… or any other awkward approach… Woman are sometimes nervous about approaching a man…I have met some marvelous ladies from their simple lines of “hello”… “how are you” than the clever one liners. To me it's what they say afters that matters when I do respond. I may never play with them… but I have some true “friends” as such with whom I seldom or never play with. In a couple of circumstances a hello has led to deep rich friendships.
Respect come to mind though… cause there are fetishes I won't do… pushing that on me guarantees I won't play again. Hounding me over it does one no good.
Respect of my privacy… I will share some things… being pushed beyond those limits…sets the flares off
Presumptions… just because I can do VR Dom and it seems of late many express that skewed viewpoint of reputation about me… does not mean I want to Dom every time I enter a room. I play all over the spectrum… but find many woman do not express their expectations of me before entering a room.
Abusive language… quickest exit and ignore you'll ever see….I hate it… that includes racial references. I use neither… and expect the same not to be directed towards me or any partner in any derogatory fashion. Humiliation is not my bag… expecting me to utilize it in BDSM play… nah… I am quite capable of performing without that cheap disgusting trick…and that runs back into that category of fetishes I won't do.
yeah that gifting line…it's already been said.
Covems… you get more than one chance…sometimes you have to keep rolling for it… until it finally is delivered again.
